lonelypiscesguy Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 If you read my first post about my GF breaking up with me. In spite of her issues, she is a sweetheart and a very good person. God, I miss her SO much! It's only been 5 days, but it feels like 5 months. I know from her telling me about her other ex BF's that she doesn't look back after leaving a guy, so that door is closed. I would take her back with the quickness giving the opportunity. How can I just move on? It really is just a matter of time, I guess, but if anybody has any tips or tricks to expedite the process, I would appreciate it.
Art_Critic Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Time.. you need more than 5 days.. now if it were 5 months I'd say you need to start given it to some other girl but since it has only been 5 days I'd say give it some time...
alphamale Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 take something she gave you and smash it into bits...you'll feel better
9Lives Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 apparently you broke up for a reason. Think about the reasons. It has been 7 days for me. I have been praying and thinking about the stuff I dont have to deal with anymore and what I can experience with another man that my ex would not do. It is very mental at this point cause your emotions are not to be trusted right now. You have to think with your head...not your heart to make it thru....You Seriously need a plan...for real. cause it is not easy.
boldjack Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The quickest way to get over a lost love is to find another. Good luck.
Author lonelypiscesguy Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 The quickest way to get over a lost love is to find another. Good luck. You're so right. Thank you all.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Finding someone else to replace her is only temporary. Sooner or later you'll be back at square one thinking about her again. You need to give yourself time.
sugarmomma Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The quickest way to get over someonbody is to get under somebody. Just kidding but I had to say it. Time. Time. Time
Surfer Dude Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The quickest way to get over someonbody is to get under somebody. Just kidding but I had to say it. Time. Time. Time Actually, this is more correct than you can imagine. You are infatuated by this chick and she owns you emotionally. What better way to get over such affliction than to go f*ck ten other women? I guarantee that even 3 women later, you won't remember your ex's name. She dumped you and probably knows you'd take her back, meaning she has little or no respect for you (women don't respect whipped men). Don't beg, don't plead, just go total NO CONTACT. After a while, she'll need to be validated and she'll wonder why you aren't contacting her. Then she'll contact you and try to suck you in, maybe even by telling you about her new boyfriends solely to elicit a response. Might even throw tantrums if you don't cave. Also, never believe what chicks say. Her saying "I never look back" is such a transparent attempt to gain higher ground and decrease your value and self esteem even further. Meet new women, take a vacation, do whatever it takes to forget this woman and her bullshix.
kizik Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 The quickest way to get over a lost love is to find another. Good luck. B.S. All that's going to do is hurt someone who doesn't deserve your baggage. Sex is just an opiate that kills the pain for a few minutes. I can guarantee you that thoughts of her will re-emerge right after you blow your load. The best way to get over someone is to spend solitary time reflecting on what happened in the relationship, accept your responsibility, forgive yourself and start rebuilding your own life, with your own hobbies and interests and goals. THEN once you are a new successful person who has made a brand new, exciting life for himself.. look around. Start dating again.
flash582 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I vote for go out and get laid. It won't make you stop thinking about her, but it will certainly help your self esteem.
sfsassy Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I think at this point time is best. (being that the breakup was less than a week ago!) Also I realized after my last breakup that discussing it a lot may not be a good thing. Some talking is good, healthy, but don't let it becoome the only topic of discussion. I would just obsessively talk about my breakup with my best friend, who thought I could heal best by exploring feelings, etc, etc. It came from a very good, sweet place, but kept me too focused on the breakup and the ex. I did much better once I conciously chose not to discuss my breakup or the ex I haven't had another breakup since then, but had a tense situation with a guy I liked who let me down. I used this approach of only talking about it as little as I could stand (which was still some as I needed support.) , and got over the hurt, disappointment, obsessive thinking miuch, much quicker.
seibert253 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 The quickest way to get over a lost love is to find another. Good luck. Or two, or three.
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