someone000 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 hello. first i want to say never did i think i would ever be posting in these kind of forums.. but lately i've been feeling soo depressed im going to try anything that may help me feel better. Its been 2 months now since my ex broke up with me. He was my first and will be my only love. I can't really describe how i've been feeling ever since... but i cant take it anymore. I really want to find a way of getting over him. It wasnt until a couple of days ago when he told me he has another girlfriend that i realised its no good hoping he somehow will want me again. I guess i've begun to accept that will probably never happen. what makes everything soo much worse is i havent really spoken to him in 2months and i missed him soo much. So i decided to talk to him again and thats how i ended up finding out about his new girlfriend. Now i realise i was soo foolish for ever believing someone could ever fall in love with me and would want to be with me forever... just like he promised me.... by the way i was in a long distance relationship and we havent ever met. But just because i've never met him before in person doesnt mean my feeling for him are fake. any words of advice will be much appreciated...
Aerorobyn Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 First off, don't say that you're not good enough for someone to love and want to be with forever! I believe that there IS that someone out there for every person--some people find it at the age of 5, some at the age of 60! Love really does take time! You can't rush into things...just wait. And I know you're upset about this, but it'll be ok. Yall were long distance. Yall weren't able to have any sort of intimacy, or even just cuddle with each other. I'm not saying yall will never be together again...things can always happen. I'm just saying, don't expect it. Easier said than done, I know. I've been in a long-distance relationship. I was with him for four months before the distance destroyed us. It has been almost four years since we broke up...do I still have feelings for him? Yes, because he was my first "love," but I have come to accept that we were NOT meant for each other! He and I now talk on a regular basis--as friends--and there is no awkwardness. He has been helping me out with my current breakup, and I've helped him out with his current love interest. Really though. You just have to give things time. I know its hard...but get out there! Go clubbin' with some friends! Dress up in some nice outfits and get some guys' numbers! Just have fun right now, and try to get your mind off of him. If you two are truly meant to be together...then yall will be together again someday (even if its 30 years from now). If not, then just know that there is someone out there for you!
Author someone000 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Thank you so much for responding. I guess if its possible for us to be together again ill just have to hope it doesnt work out with his new girlfriend. I guess ill be waiting for him.... i really mean it when i say he will be my only love.. so its either somehow it all works out or i wont be with anyone again
Island Girl Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Thank you so much for responding. I guess if its possible for us to be together again ill just have to hope it doesnt work out with his new girlfriend. I guess ill be waiting for him.... i really mean it when i say he will be my only love.. so its either somehow it all works out or i wont be with anyone again Why do you say this? You are basically nullifying the possibility of being happy and finding love again. And you are doing that to yourself?!! You sound young. How old are you? I found the love of my life at 32 years old. My first REAL love. This is a mature love. It is the best feeling I have ever known. And I know it is that way for him as well. There are other people out there. You may end up with him again (it just recently happened to a poster here -- they were LD and he broke up with her - now many years later they are together again and just got engaged) or possibly someone else even more perfect for you. And I know you are saying "there is no one else more perfect!" but there just may be.
D-Lish Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Thank you so much for responding. I guess if its possible for us to be together again ill just have to hope it doesnt work out with his new girlfriend. I guess ill be waiting for him.... i really mean it when i say he will be my only love.. so its either somehow it all works out or i wont be with anyone again Are you really going to give up like this? You never met him- you never stablished any intimacy. People can be anything they want to be over the internet! Do you really think you're last hope for a relationship lies in waiting for a guy that has a new gf ...not to mention you never met him!! Don't get me wrong. I understand that you can make a connection online. But it is NOT real until you meet and establish that everything you believed them to be is actually true. Sorry- that is seldom the case! What should you do? You should start meeting other people. Why would you put so little value on yourself that you feel your only option is to wait in line for a fantasy. I'm sorry- but without meeting him in real life- he was a fantasy!
Author someone000 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Thank you both for your words. Sorry but i just know if i ever give love another chance ill only end up being hurt again... If i ever do manage to get rid of my feelings for him ill be relieved of all this pain im feeling now. This pain will also act as a reminder of the dangerous consequences of love. A relationship is not really something i thought i would get myself into.. it just happened all so fast i guess. And i now realise that a relationship is definately NOT something i would like to get myself into again. I know you are all going to say there is probably someone out there for me.. but i've just lost the one and only person i really thought IS the one for me. Therefore no point getting hopeful for nothing only to be disappointed in the end... simply: I'm just not going to risk getting hurt again... although how cowardly that may be. And to answer your question Island Girl i am 16
EmperorR Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I know how it feels I lost my first love my ex fiance cheated and dumped me, then today dumped by another girl I had strong feelings for. The pain sucks, especially im going through the cycle all over again, but it does get better.
Author someone000 Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 I know how it feels I lost my first love my ex fiance cheated and dumped me, then today dumped by another girl I had strong feelings for. The pain sucks, especially im going through the cycle all over again, but it does get better. thats soo sad i hope everything works out for you in the end.. But this is exactly what i mean. Even if i do have a relationship with someone else chances are it will only end in disaster and thats going to be just too much for me to handle.
Author someone000 Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 nothing seems to be getting better....
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