twistofcain Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Hi. I just came out of the best relationship ever with my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. I thought everything was fine but she just fell out of love with me for whatever reason, she does not know. This is her first year of college and it is almost over. I am home, she is in CT. All of a sudden this all happened, and she wants to get over me and see other people. What hurts the most is she already found another guy who she says "She likes a lot" and it is killing me on the insides. I told her I cannot talk to her at this point in my life and maybe we can be friends at another time. BUT here is the thing, I am still so madly in love with her and I dont know what to do. She has already expressed she has fell out of love (which has happened before, we broke up for about 6 months and she fell in love with me again. At that time she was seeing no other boys.) I want her back so damn bad. What can I do to get her interested in me again? And do you think I should be worried about this other guy? It seems to me like a rebound relationship just to get over me. I really want her back!!!
trying123 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Two things Trust me girls will always be able to find guys easier that guys can find girls. What is important is that guy will not even hold a candle to you, trust me Also you have to go NC, is the only way she will realize what she is missing sorry, trust me I have done the break no break stuff, its the only way
andy2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 i am totally agree with "trying123". Your situation as of me. My gf is gone and she said she need space and out of love. So since it is her decision and if you try to get her back, she might angry or so. therefore the best way is to NC with her by all means of communications. Try to busy yourself with other things/hobbies etc. And do not try on other girls for now.
Citizen Erased Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Even if you get her back, chances are this will happen again. Not even worth your time but I'm sure you'll try anyway.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 She's bound to fall out of love with the other guy as well. Focus on NC rather than getting her back. It's not about getting her back but about deserving someone worth your love. Obviously she isn't that someone.
Author twistofcain Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 does anyone think that there is still a chance? I mean i think that she is only going with this guy because he is "new" and exciting (her own words.) She says she really likes him but does not LOVE him, and she will be home next month from college for good so she will not see him barely at all. Our relationship was very long maybe she just needed a chance to meet new people? Do you think I should contact her when she is home? Or wait for her to talk to me? I am hurting so bad, I want to be with her and only her.
Author twistofcain Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 here is my take (I just want to know what you people think.) She is having such a hard time being away from me, and it hurt so bad, that she just couldnt stand being in love with someone that is so far away (she told me numerous times during the break up "after college maybe" and kept on repeating that.) However, next year I am going to college and I havent told her but I am considering going away to somewhere near her (Or if things get really serious, her college and not just for the reason that it would make things easier but it has always been one of my choices.) She does not know this and was under the impression that I am staying at home for college. I just want to tell her when she is ready to contact me what I am thinking about and I think it will help us a lot. She seems very happy without me on the outside, but also there are signs I see that tell me she is so confused and hurting. She said she really wants to be friends and was upset when I broke it to her we couldnt be friends. This guy is someone she just met and he goes to her school so I think it is a rebound...She is away, so is he, and she wants to get over me. She said although she likes this guy a lot, she is not over me and in her AIM profile there are song lyrics about being upset breaking up with me as opposed to being happy with this new guy. Now I am going to try NC, and I think since we have known eachother for so long (4 years) she will crack and want to talk to me. Maybe not right away but I really think she will when she comes home for summer...maybe not to be lovers right away but to be friends, and when I tell her I am planning to go away to college she will realize that there IS a possibility of us being together again. So now, what does everyone think? How are the chances of this working? Everyone around me says there is no way she wont talk to me, she will miss me, she is hurting and confused, and this new guy is a "band aid to her emotions." She kissed him, but was heavily drunk at the time so wasnt thinking rationally. Sorry this is so long!! What does everyone think? I am so in love! I think this will work.
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