Jack of Hearts Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 What can I say? I'm confused and I need some feedback on some questions I have. 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? I know some of you will be thinking "Man, this guy is clueless!" And you're right, after all I am just a guy. Thanks!
Isolde Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Ooh I like these poll things. 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? It can help if I drink a beer or at most two, the main thing that gives me courage is when a guy approaches me and gives me good signals. 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? Um, yeah. I've experienced attraction so strong it turned me into a blithering idiot. 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? NO NO NO. 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? I would never lie about my feelings. I am often scared of my vulnerability but I know in the right relationship I would never have to avoid my feelings or talking about them. 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? Apathetic no, but I definitely avoid becoming invested on the first couple dates 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? No idea, doesn't apply to me 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? Both, both both! It varies from woman to woman though, some are more verbal or expressive than others for sure...
Trialbyfire Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need?Perhaps some women do. I don't. 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? There are some women intimidated and some that aren't. I'm not. 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? Absolutely never. 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? Some women do and some don't. I will avoid talking about things until I've crystallized things in my own mind. No use causing confusion when I'm uncertain. It's also no use to discuss something if the other person has no interest. Why bother wasting time and emotion? 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? Some women do and some don't. I don't, unless you count walking away from someone if they're not showing interest or all in. 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? Societal conditioning and not wanting to give the wrong impression to men that she's interested, when she's not interested. 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? Actions happen. Words just have potential.
era Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? A very definitive NO. I can't supply you with the answers to your other queries, it all just depends on the situation.
Lizzie60 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? Nope.. I don't drink... I certainly don't need a drink to open up... I find it sad when people need to get drunk to be comfortable around someone.. 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? Nope.. Attractive men do not intimidate me.. I find it sad when people are intimidated by attractive people. 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? Yes.. It happened.. for obvious reason$..it didn't last very long and it doesn't happen anymore.. now I get physical with men I'm attracted to.. I find it sad when people get physical with people they're not attracted to.. 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? Nope.. I'm like an open book... If I talk about my feelings to a guy it's because I trust him.. and we have a good relationship.. otherwise it's not his business.. I just don't find there is a need to talk about our feelings with just anyone.. I find it sad when people deny their true feelings out of fear. 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? Nope.. this is quite immature and stupid.. if don't like him.. why hurt him.. this is dumb.. I find it sad when people feel the need to hurt someone just to prevent being hurt.. dumb .. dumb.. 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? There is no need to be opened with everyone.. I don't talk about my sex life to even my best friends (except some light stuff).. I keep my dirty secrets for myself.. that's nobody's business... I find it sad when people talk about their love As.. 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? Definitely.. or maybe not.. it depends on the 'seriousness' of the relationship.. But I say that men should definitely pay more attention to women in general .. we are pricele$$.. I find it sad...
Beautiful Inside Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 What can I say? I'm confused and I need some feedback on some questions I have. 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? I know some of you will be thinking "Man, this guy is clueless!" And you're right, after all I am just a guy. Thanks! 1. yes 2. yes, but we act like were not of course! we play it off smooth i know i act like i dont even notice the hottest guy in the place i dont even look at him. 3. no 4. of course you dont want to scare them away! 5. skip 6. might come off the wrong way 7. yes
Isolde Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 It's weird: sometimes I can be attracted to someone and not nervous around them at all, where sometimes I'm totally intimidated. It's very conditional on the situation. I do tend to get more flustered by guys I encounter casually than guys I'm actually on a date with.
PinkKittyKat Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 1. Some women do, some women don't. 2. Some women are, some women aren't. 3. Some women would, some women won't. 4. Some women do, some women don't. 5. Some women do, some women don't. 6. Maybe it's chance, maybe she's just more comfortable around certain people. 7. Sometimes one more than the other. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Women are not a hive mind. We're all individuals. As you can already see from the answers. Okay, here's MY personal answers... ~~~ 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? Nope, I am pretty laid back. 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? No, sometimes if a guy is really smart I'll get worried about impressing him, but physical appearance is a silly reason to be nervous. 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? Ew, no. I've made out with guys who I didn't like personally, but found them attractive before though. 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? Me? No, I'm brutally honest. I don't play rotten little games. 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? No, I don't do that. If I'm apathetic, I'm apathetic. I'm not "fake apathetic to a man I find attractive so I won't get hurt". That's...I....that's very silly. 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? This pretty much describes me. She might avoid it around certain men because she thinks the man may be offended or judge her, because the guy goes all weird and makes her feel uncomfortable, or the people she's telling may be closer to her and not passing acquaintances. It could be any number of reasons. 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? Both. But, when in doubt, go with words, since some men are HORRIBLE at reading body language. "OH! She's playing with her hair, she likes me!", "OH! She's leaning forward to listen, she's showing attraction!" And then you go, "Um, no, I'm being polite, I'm not interested", and they insist "Noooooo, you liiike me!:)"
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Women are not a hive mind. We have all been assimilated. It was futile to resist.
Author Jack of Hearts Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Ha! These are some great responses, and Lizzie, you're freakin hilarious. However, I understand that women are individuals, each with differences in character. Through my line of questions I was wanted personal, individual opinions. Not an attempt to describe all women. I guess I should have formed my questions differently, instead of asking "Do women" I should have wrote it "Do you or would you". Thanks for the feedback, though. It's helping
Lizzie60 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Ha! These are some great responses, and Lizzie, you're freakin hilarious. However, I understand that women are individuals, each with differences in character. Through my line of questions I was wanted personal, individual opinions. Not an attempt to describe all women. I guess I should have formed my questions differently, instead of asking "Do women" I should have wrote it "Do you or would you". Thanks for the feedback, though. It's helping Thanks.. JoH... I'm not sure if I missed something but I think most women that respond did just that.. individual answers..
Author Jack of Hearts Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 I'm not sure if I missed something but I think most women that respond did just that.. individual answers.. No, you're right. You all have, but I could've been clearer due to the likelyhood that there might be more of a tendency to make a broad generalization in future responses.
Citizen Erased Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 1. No. 2. No. 3. No. 4. No. 5. No. 6. Never do this... 7. Combination of both.
popey Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 What can I say? I'm confused and I need some feedback on some questions I have. 1. Do women sometimes need a bit of the "ol' liquid courage" to open up to men they are attracted to, like us guys sometimes need? 2. Are women ever intimidated by men they're attracted to? Like guys are with attractive women? 3. Would you ever make out / get physical with a man on a semi-regular basis with a man you weren't attracted to? 4. Do women ever avoid talking about their feelings or deny their true feelings out of fear of appearing vulnerable or getting hurt? 5. Do women ever don an apathetic attitude to avoid potentially getting hurt by a man she's attracted to? 6. Why would a woman who is very comfortable with her sexuality, who has no apprehension talking about her experiences openly with friends (male friends included) avoid the topic around certain men? 7. Should men pay more attention to a woman's actions or her words? I know some of you will be thinking "Man, this guy is clueless!" And you're right, after all I am just a guy. Thanks! ok, I'm glad you clarified that you understand women are all different individuals and are actually looking for personal responses. So here goes mine... 1. not really. In fact, alcohol will only help the conversation, if there wasn't any genuine interest or potential for real connection. 2. if you just mean physical attraction, no. but if i feel potentially interested in a man, I may be a little cautious about putting it out there and being rejected. might be inclined to feel it out more. not sure if that's what you mean. 3. don't think so 4. I have 5. i think I've behaved this way at times, and for different reasons. One, you already answered... to avoid getting hurt. why do people engage in any defense mechanism? Two, b/c I deemed the man to be someone who would be motivated by my indiference. Three, b/c I was truly both attracted and apathetic. 6. too many reasons to list. the possiblilities are endless. 7. ACTIONS
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