Wondering what I should do!

[TheVerveHistory]

I'll keep it short. I met a girl a month ago and we became fast friends, we were both single and we both said we liked each other, alot. We only fooled around once and we were both pretty drunk. However, when she met me she just came out of a 3 year relationship. The guy was horrible to her and broke up with her several times and as a result she has low self-esteem. It was her only relationship.

 

Just a few days ago, she again took him back and now he won't stop verbally abusing her because she spends time with me (as friends, we don't do anything physical). I respect her decision and won't do anything to get her in trouble, however, I cannot help but be attracted to her. She's convinced she loves him but everyone, even the ex's mom, says he will screw her over again, because so far he gets away with it everytime.

 

Should I just stay her friend? She told me last night she stills likes me but wants to be a good girlfriend to a jerkoff.

 

Man, women... lol...

[Timmers]

If you stay, you will be her enabler. You will basically be telling her (w/o words) "it's ok that you went back to your ex, you can stay with him and I'm fine with it."

 

You can try for a while to make her see the light, so to speak, and get her to realize what an ass he is. But be forewarned: this is not easy, and it might take a long time. She's probably with someone who's excellent at manipulating her thoughts and feelings.

 

I was in a similar relationship with a girl for 4 years... 3 years into it, I met another girl who was pretty much exactly who I wanted to be with but being so brainwashed by my first girl, I opted to stay with her for another year. Biggest mistake of my life. Now I'm with the 2nd girl and couldn't be happier but it took days of talking it out with her to see how ****ed up my 1st relationship was.

[TheVerveHistory]

Thank you very much. You're right, he's a master manipulator.