drummerprince81 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I sent the letter. And the letter says it all! I did it for closure for my own sake, even though I'm still none the wiser, and to let her know that I'm sorry but that I didn't deserve to have been left hanging. It wasn't nasty but rather nice, and dignified. However, I feel like I've lost all dignity and don't feel any better whatsoever. I wish I hadn't sent it, but know that if I hadn't in a few weeks I'd have regretted this. Its impossible to tell what the right thing is to do. I know a lot of people say don't send. But I now know there is nothing more I can ever say or do, but I still feel like I've made a mistake - especially if there was any hope of future reconcilation. Can someone make me feel better - please?
Meaplus3 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Listen, Don't feel bad. I did the same thing as you for closure.. and then had the same feelings. But, as time passed I'm glad I said what I needed to say.. and let it all out. It was my final closure since the person left me hanging big time. So, really try your best to forget if you can. I know it's tough but with time you will feel better. Best wishes. Mea:)
Ronni_W Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Drummer, You did what felt good, proper and appropriate at the time, yes? So, basically, you followed your own heart/inner counsel -- in my experience, that is ALWAYS a wise thing to do. And it also takes courage to do it...to hit that 'send' button or release it from our hands into the mailbox. So, that is something else you can feel proud of. All in all then...Congrats! A job well done
Author drummerprince81 Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 "And it also takes courage to do it...to hit that 'send' button or release it from our hands into the mailbox. So, that is something else you can feel proud of." Actually, it was a hand written letter which I delivered at her house...the pain I had driving down her street was horrid and it was a foolish thing to do really, but I did it. The only thing is, there are still things in my head I wish I'd written so I'm kinda pissed off with myself now. But then, there will always be things I need to say because I got dumped.
Ronni_W Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 The only thing is, there are still things in my head I wish I'd written so I'm kinda pissed off with myself now. But then, there will always be things I need to say because I got dumped. Well, nothing's stopping you from writing down all the other stuff -- and when it feels done, burn it. And write some more, and release that one to the ashes, too. If you want to make it interesting, write the same thing but from different perspectives -- how (you think) your best friend would describe it/write about it, then a sibling, then a parent...and, yes, you can even write it from your ex's viewpoint as well (if/when that feels appropriate and like it won't freak you out, that is.) Keeping in mind, of course, that it is just YOUR perspective of their perspectives. But it can still be quite interesting and enlightening...or just entertaining, at the very least.
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