Alex_M Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 So there's a girl I'm unsure about. I don't think I'm over my ex but this might just be what I need to move on. I don't wanna hurt somone but a little bit of fun can't hurt right? Any thoughts/experiences? thanks.
tkgirl Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 if you think you might be only using this new girl to get over your ex, don't do it. Get over your ex and then start dating... otherwise you may end up hurting this new girl... that just wouldn't be right.
Just Angel Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 In my opinion, we all need time alone after a break up of a relationship. I dont mean you shouldnt go out and have fun, but Id avoid looking for/getting into a relationship for a while. Go out on dates, go dancing, etc, but be sure to let others know that you are fresh out of a relationship and are just looking for some fun. Not only to avoid hurting someone else, but to give yourself grief time. (filling the void just prolonges the healing) Just my 2 pennies worth.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 As long as said girl is aware she's being used as a rebound and is cool with it - go for it. But if you choose not to be honest and use her up anyway, that's pretty harsh.
Author Alex_M Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 it's been 6 months since breakup, hell I dunno if I'm over her or not. Sometimes I feel I am, sometimes not. But I'm tired of being lonely. 6 months feels way too long.
tkgirl Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 it's been 6 months since breakup, hell I dunno if I'm over her or not. Sometimes I feel I am, sometimes not. But I'm tired of being lonely. 6 months feels way too long. yeah, I know how you feel... you should get out and be with people, whether it's for "dating" or not... being lonely sucks! If you do decide to go out with this girl, just be upfront... let her know you're not sure if you are ready for anything serious... but that you like her and want to see where things go. I think being honest is always the best way to go...
fishtaco Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 As long as said girl is aware she's being used as a rebound and is cool with it - go for it. But if you choose not to be honest and use her up anyway, that's pretty harsh. This. Although I wouldn't word it that way exactly. Specifically, words like "use" and "rebound" are not good choices. The fact is, some women are out there to play. Not everyone want to get into a committed relationship. Different people have different needs at different times of their lives. So if you need a rebound, find a woman that just wants to casually date, because essentially, that's what you're doing. Rebound is a reason to do so, but there are plenty of other reasons people could have to keep things at a casual level. Anytime you deal with women, use as many euphemisms as possible; they're not your football buddies. So use phrases like "just want to keep it light", "casual, no expectations". Once you've been honest with your casual intentions, your jobs is done. If she misinterprets your words, or if she's in denial and tries to keep you, that's her personal responsibility. We are all adults. There's no baby sitting.
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