Yeaa I should just move on, but its not that simple it never is

[seai3reeze]

I apologize in advance at the length of this post I did not intend to write a novel, but it’s the only way I can explain everything since it has been a long road.

 

Let me start of by saying you don’t need to tell me because I already know…the best thing to do is to just move on, but I would like some feedback. I am one of those people that give advice, but can never take it even from myself.

 

I never thought I would be in this position, but here is how is all starts you guys can read on and tell me exactly how pathedic I have become.

 

About 6 years ago I started dating this girl my senior year of high school. I guess you could say it was my first "real relationship". She was actually attending her first year of college at the time. Well you know how the story goes before we knew it we were inseparable we spent all our free time together. For some odd reason she didnt have many friends (perhaps it was because of her insecurity issues) so we would usually hang out with my friends. After about a year once we were passed the honeymoon stage we had many fights usually about nothing, but they were never really resolved problems because I didnt like to deal with any of them.

 

Many of the fights we actually ended up braking up but before you know it we would be back together the next week. I mean I usually had a F**k it mentality if your not happy just go, but I was young and naive and didnt know the meaning of compromising. At that time she would never let me go because I was all she had and before you knew it the years went by. Not much changed I gave up many of my friends or the time I use to spend with my friends and we spent almost all our

free time together. Well the years went by and we were about to face our biggest challenge yet... We broke up the spring of 08'...the reason I cannot even tell you

probably something small that was made into something big...nothing serious.

 

However this was our longest break up ever...It had been a month and I met someone I was sorta interested in and I was very busy with school and work. She also started dating someone shortly after, but that didnt really work out. Well it had been about 3 months since we broke up and then I starting thinking about how much I missed her. So I called her and asked her out for lunch and then we talked and I told her how much I missed her and I still loved her. She seemed stunned, but a little hesitant. At the time she was actually talking to some guy she met on the internet (on Xbox live ironic that I bought her that Xbox to keep her entertained) and she would text him throughout the day. He actually lived in another state and they were talking about meeting up.

 

I expressed to her how much I wanted to get back together with her, but she would not hear it. I was actually very persistent and engaged in borderline stalking activity ( yes, I know im not proud of it). Well she didnt listen to me and at the time I was actually about to leave on vacation for 2 weeks for a trip I had planned out with my friends. She didnt listen to me and ended up meeting up with this guy. Well we all know what happened there. Well I came back from vacation and she was actually the one to pick me up from the airport. She quit her job at the time and had a lot of free time and I had another 2 weeks before I started my last semester in college....so its only natural that we started hanging out. I did make a big deal out of her going to see that guy and told her that I felt like she choose him over me, but after hanging out every day for the next 2 weeks we were back together like nothing ever happened.

 

One of the problems we had before in our relationship was she always wanted more commitment, like a ring, but I never wanted to go that far....well we started talking and I said maybe I can see that in the future and we also started talking about moving in as well which I said I could live with. Now that could have been our happy ending right there...but its not even close. Like I said before she quit her job and had a hard time finding a new one then she picked up smoking and started playing video games all day when I am not around. Now I tried to get her to quit smoking and to stop playing video games all day but she didnt like that too much.

 

Well one day I was heading home after a night out at the bar with some friends and I told her I was coming over, but she told me not too just to go home. Then she said I was annoying her and before you knew it we were fighting about nothing. Well I thought she was the one that was wrong so I decided not to talk to her for some time and was waiting for her to call me...not the best way to handle things. So after 1 week I headed over her house and she said she did not want to see me anymore and things are just not working. I am very persistent so I spoke to her numerous times, but she just doesnt want to do it anymore she says...and thats where I am to date.

 

I just dont get it...how do you go from when are you getting me that ring to im done. I guess thats just the way it goes. I mean I have tried dating other girls while we were apart, but I guess I have just gotten way too attached to her after alllll the years that I just dont want to let go.

[kassy]

Oh dude that sounds like a long battle of a relationship.... I know you know this but move on and find someone new who is excited about you and you are excited about her... sounds like you guys are just used to going out but not actually in love

 

This said from me who is struggling from a 3 month realtionship break up ... so I can't really talk at all!

[EmperorR]

Sorry, but maybe it's for the best. See the thing is a guy thought process is different than a women. Women emotionally detach and when they usually start to avoid you or are busy and it seems like your annoying them they detach and ready to drop the bomb. Us guys get to comfortable to easily. That's why when we get dumped we never see it coming.