samsungxoxo Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Ok so I got my job after passing the english exam. Just to get an idea of where I will be working at starting next week it will be at an ''Advance Contact Center''. Over there you listen to what people are saying while using the headphones and type their messages at a faster pase. Anyways there is a small group of people that do German messages and there's this cute native born German. Ok so I know his name, his age and that he lives alone in a hotel. What else should I say to him if I see him again. Yes he does speak english too. Wish he would get to know me more. Anyways should I be like ''Oh can you teach me a bit of Germany, it's a cool language''?
doushenka Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Just, you know, ask him out to a pub or something. If you're going to take an interest in his ethnicity, why not ask him what he misses about Germany? What did he do in his free time there? What's he planning to do now? From there, you can make plans to introduce him to some spiffy new stuff here. ...now, if you're in a committed relationship, you might want to make sure this is strictly out of friendship. *looks at you veeeeery sternly* But if you're not, well, carpe diem.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 Just, you know, ask him out to a pub or something. If you're going to take an interest in his ethnicity, why not ask him what he misses about Germany? What did he do in his free time there? What's he planning to do now? From there, you can make plans to introduce him to some spiffy new stuff here. Thanks, I will think of coming up with those types of conversations. He is afterall cute, nice and funny. ...now, if you're in a committed relationship, you might want to make sure this is strictly out of friendship. *looks at you veeeeery sternly* But if you're not, well, carpe diem. Yes I'm still in this long distance relationship with the same guy that took my virginity. But no I will only keep it as friends and well nothing wrong with a bit of flirting.
DunnoWhat Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Yes I'm still in this long distance relationship with the same guy that took my virginity. But no I will only keep it as friends and well nothing wrong with a bit of flirting. Who are you fooling? There is something wrong with flirting when you're in a relationship.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 Who are you fooling? There is something wrong with flirting when you're in a relationship. But it's not cheating. It's long distance relationship anyways and he doesn't call my phone number that much. See you gotta put yourself in my position. If you were in long distance thing for 2 years and/or and a cute person is there at your work then wouldn't you want to at least get to know them a bit better??? Come to think of it isn't it human nature to flirt a bit considering your partner is very far away???
DunnoWhat Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 But it's not cheating. It's long distance relationship anyways and he doesn't call my phone number that much. See you gotta put yourself in my position. If you were in long distance thing for 2 years and/or and a cute person is there at your work then wouldn't you want to at least get to know them a bit better??? Come to think of it isn't it human nature to flirt a bit considering your partner is very far away??? It's still cheating. I am in a LDR and I just don't flirt because I know theres nothing going to happen.
bean1 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 If you've been in an LDR for 2 years and things aren't going great (?he doesn't call you very much?), and you are interested in flirting with others, what is the point of your relationship?
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 I am in a LDR and I just don't flirt because I know theres nothing going to happen. I know that nothing out of control will happen either, I will not kiss him not sleep with him. I just kinda like acting funny but see if it gets to intimate and the guy were to go into personal details on me then I would tell the truth, that I'm taken in LDR. Ever heard of joking around with people?? That was mainly what I meant before.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 If you've been in an LDR for 2 years and things aren't going great (?he doesn't call you very much?), and you are interested in flirting with others, what is the point of your relationship? Yeah things are ok but see I guess this has to do more with me. Even when I was not long distance with him, when we were at the same place I kinda still flirted (acted funny) with some guys at my other previous job. I may at times have a bit of wondering eyes but no I know it will never lead to anything.
plane addicted Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I'm going out on a limb here and say you are not satisfied in your present relationship? So you want a new one. If so you must end things with your bf now before you start another one. OR...You say you don't want the sex or anything and I kind of believe you. Maybe you want that comfort of being with someone. But if that's all you wanted you would find a good girlfriend. But you are looking at a man. You probably want a couple good hugs. Very few men will find it favorable to hang out and cuddle up to a girl they are not sleeping with, unless you have a really close gay man friend who likes to cuddle... But maybe your bf really loves you and you are lonely. Maybe it is better to be abstinent from human contact to save real love, rather than have a bit of warmth next to you but it not be from someone who cares for you as deeply. What if we fast forward? You and Deutschland hook up and you ditch the LDR, then you keep seeing German guy and then things go wrong. Will you feel akward seeing him at work every day?
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 But maybe your bf really loves you and you are lonely. Maybe it is better to be abstinent from human contact to save real love, rather than have a bit of warmth next to you but it not be from someone who cares for you as deeply. I think so too. I guess I mainly missed that human contact of when we were at the same place. Nothings compares to as when your partner is there and you guys get to do everything. What if we fast forward? You and Deutschland hook up and you ditch the LDR, then you keep seeing German guy and then things go wrong. Will you feel akward seeing him at work every day? I haven't thought of that but assuming that it doesn't work out then I would just lose interest in wanting to talk to him.
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