alwayssme Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Because eventually you have NO CHOICE but to let go and move forward. Trust me, I still have days sometimes where I cry or feel sad or anger or simply a feeling of loss....But I can see things much clearer now. I think I was one of the few (no offense to anyone) people who went through SOO MUCH INTENSE PAIN..I know heartbreak affects everyone but trust me when I say I WAS A MESS ALL DAY CRYING FOR MONTHS...Its crazy, I think I literally almost went insane. And if *I* can get better, then so can anyone, believe that. Everybody and every story is different but when you TRULY ARE IN LOVE...and you KNOW when you are, it will hurt so bad to lose that person. If you jsut really liked your ex, its different then when you were deeply in love with them. And the pain of losing someone you love is CRAZY! At least for me it was... After awhile, LIFE makes you MOVE ON!! I still love my ex but I am not in that stage anymore, I dont live in misery anymore. I wish everyone the best and a not so painful process as what I had to go through. Good luck!!
searcher Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Thanks alwayssme. This is really great to hear. It's been two months since my husband who I thought was truley my soulmate left me. I'm just starting to feel normal some days. I too thought I was going to go insane. I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, had panic attackes which made my chest feel like it was going to explode and my arms would go numb if I tried to leave the bedroom. Now at two months I still cry everyday but I am starting to see that there might me something worth living for. If only we could jump ahead in time and miss some of the pain.
EmperorR Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Hey alwaysme good to know your moving on and things are getting a little easier I know how hard it is and how far you came. I still think about my ex every day but I have accepted she is not coming back nor would I take back a cheater, as time goes on you feel a little bit better:
Sam Spade Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Dunno... I hope you are right. It's been 9 months for me. getting better, but still feeling awful, compounded by the fact that she contacted me a couple of times, making attempts to coma back, unfortunately for the wrong reasons and in the wrongest posible way. So I haven't made much progress, although I'm dating a great new girl right now .
kizik Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 So I haven't made much progress, although I'm dating a great new girl right now . I really don't understand how you can be dating someone new if you are still so clearly hung up on your ex. I feel bad for your new GF, TBH. You really should be alone if you're so stuck on the ex.
Sam Spade Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I really don't understand how you can be dating someone new if you are still so clearly hung up on your ex. I feel bad for your new GF, TBH. You really should be alone if you're so stuck on the ex. Maybe, but I think that this is one of the biggest myths perpetuated on dating sites. Everybody has exes (my gf included...), so what better way to move on with your life than finding someone great? if anything, not dating would keep me hug up on her much longer, since I'd be stuck there, unaware of all other 'parralel univerces' that exist out there...
Saesan Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I'm glad to you've reached this point, I remember the some of the posts you made a few months ago, and the frequency of them, and I did worry for awhile if you would make it to this point. But you did, and its something you should be proud of.
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