DunnoWhat Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Is it a sign of strength or weakness in a man to say it? Does it have to come from a place of strength? I'm asking because my girlfriend is bringing up the subject.
flash582 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Weakness? Only a strong man can really discuss how he feels with someone he cares about. Weak men just whine about it. Scared men don't say anything at all ... that way they never risk being hurt.
blk86 Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Is it a sign of strength or weakness in a man to say it? Does it have to come from a place of strength? I'm asking because my girlfriend is bringing up the subject. its a sign of heart! and honesty with feelings. only say it if you truly mean it. But it does show that your manning up when talk about it with confidants.
Trialbyfire Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 What they said! If you can honestly express emotion to someone you love, that's a strong man! Wimps...wimp out...
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I see it as a sign of strength. It can be hard to talk about your feelings, but I'd say more so for men because they can be so deeply conditioned AGAINST doing it. I greatly admire the man that can express his feelings.
bayouboi Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 It must be the time of year because I see alot of these 'I love you' threads beginning to bloom. Some of LS's perennial posters are probably more experienced with this trend than a little bud such as myself. Anyhow, in my situation we've been together for nearly half a year and I couldn't hold it in any longer and let it out. Her response was that she 'liked' to hear me say it, but didn't feel ready to say it herself. She said she 'liked us' alot and would miss me if I weren't there, but that she felt guarded and really wants to mean it if/when she says it. The thing is, ever since I've said it she seems to contact me more and want to be with me more. Should I be discouraged by her hesitation to be at my level of verbal adoration?
boldjack Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I used to say it all the time to get laid. When playing a woman, to say that or to imply it, will usually get you what you want. The danger in this is when you say it and really mean it, because then you won't be believed.
Author DunnoWhat Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 My GF wants to talk about it tonight. She said it's been on her mind for some time and wants to know what I think about saying it. When would be the best time etc.. It must be the time of year because I see alot of these 'I love you' threads beginning to bloom. Some of LS's perennial posters are probably more experienced with this trend than a little bud such as myself. Anyhow, in my situation we've been together for nearly half a year and I couldn't hold it in any longer and let it out. Her response was that she 'liked' to hear me say it, but didn't feel ready to say it herself. She said she 'liked us' alot and would miss me if I weren't there, but that she felt guarded and really wants to mean it if/when she says it. The thing is, ever since I've said it she seems to contact me more and want to be with me more. Should I be discouraged by her hesitation to be at my level of verbal adoration? No. Actions speak louder then words. You've told her and shes contacting you more so thats a good sign at least.
burningashes Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 How long have you guys been together officially? Sounds like your girlfriend is looking for reassurance about the relationship with you, where it's going and whether it's going to be short or long term. There isn't a 'right' time to say it and it shouldn't be forced. Say it when you feel it's the right time for you and when you're ready to. You can do what the OP's girlfriend did, explain that you aren't ready to and that you want to mean it when you do say it. I did that with my bf and ended up looking for advice here on the same topic like you. good luck!
Timmers Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I don't think there's anything weak about expressing love. It takes a real man, a confident man, to express genuine love.
Author DunnoWhat Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 I said it to her and she said she loves me. I asked her what she felt and she was stumbling along a bit so I said it to her. She was afraid to ask and tell me her feelings incase I didn't feel the same way. It won't change a thing as far as I'm concerned. I told her that words are cheap and actions speak louder. How long have you guys been together officially? Sounds like your girlfriend is looking for reassurance about the relationship with you, where it's going and whether it's going to be short or long term. There isn't a 'right' time to say it and it shouldn't be forced. Say it when you feel it's the right time for you and when you're ready to. You can do what the OP's girlfriend did, explain that you aren't ready to and that you want to mean it when you do say it. I did that with my bf and ended up looking for advice here on the same topic like you. good luck! We've been a couple since august.
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