snsd Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I'm very lonely and bored with my life only 17 years old and I spend 95% of the time inside my room... these four walls make my life seem so small even the most depressed people cannot understand how I feel because I am not suicidal and I am not depressed... I am sad I find myself listening to their problems rather then them listning to mines as for people who are happy and have always been the life of the party I can't take their opinion of me or their advice seriously they don't understand because they feel sorry for me they give me advice like... "WELL GO OUT JUST BE YOURSELF!" "JUST LIKE GO UP TO PEOPLE AND TALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!" "IF YOU LIKE A GUY BE YOURSELF AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!" seriously advice like that annoys the HELL OUT OF ME!which is why I don't even bother asking for help anymore its the same ol same do you honestly think if I could just go up to people and be all out going and hapy go lucky that I would be in this situation? anyone here been where I am now and can give me some good advice how to get from under this rock?because I really do feel stuck with no way out
johan Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 You're under a rock, because every chance you get you crawl under it. You might not be happy, but you're also safe. So as long as you choose to be safely solitary, you'll be just like you are. You'd like people to believe that society wants you in your room. You'd like to believe it yourself. You want the sympathy that comes from people seeing the injustice of your life. You might get it, but only from people who you know don't really understand. Anyone who really understands won't offer it. You're living the life you choose. At 17 you can afford it. Change is going to come find you.
Author snsd Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 You're under a rock, because every chance you get you crawl under it. You might not be happy, but you're also safe. So as long as you choose to be safely solitary, you'll be just like you are. You'd like people to believe that society wants you in your room. You'd like to believe it yourself. You want the sympathy that comes from people seeing the injustice of your life. You might get it, but only from people who you know don't really understand. Anyone who really understands won't offer it. You're living the life you choose. At 17 you can afford it. Change is going to come find you. I think everything we do is a choice so I am not denying for a minute that the life I lead is a choice but changing the we live our lives is easier said than done and that is the problem I am having
johan Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Why do you choose it, if it makes you unhappy? What is the next best alternative? Why don't you choose that?
Author snsd Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 Why do you choose it, if it makes you unhappy? What is the next best alternative? Why don't you choose that? Well I am a very shy person and I feel uncomfortable around people..people don't understand that they take the way I am for being weird or stuckup at first the way I live my life was my choosing because I was bullied allot and it was a way to protact myself from everyone else and it did work but now I am in a hole that is difficult to get out of i could but idk how
Lucky_One Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 You're shy? Then maybe it is time for you to work on some social skills in an environment that is non-threatening. With many animal shelters having difficulties with funding in the economic crisis, why not volunteer there? They usually need people to staff the phones or desk, or to walk the dogs, or even things like petting cats or kittens in order to acclimate them to human touch. Volunteer with small children at a Boys and Girls Club (or something like that). It is hard to be shy with kids, and they are funny as heck, too. They always can use folks for activities, for art projects, for tutoring. You can also try volunteering at a nursing home. That might be harder, as sometimes the elderly might not be as quick to interact as a dog or a toddler, but you would giving a hugely valuable gift of attention and time to a lonely and often forgotten population. All of these activities, btw, will look great on your college application forms.
Author snsd Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 You're shy? Then maybe it is time for you to work on some social skills in an environment that is non-threatening. With many animal shelters having difficulties with funding in the economic crisis, why not volunteer there? They usually need people to staff the phones or desk, or to walk the dogs, or even things like petting cats or kittens in order to acclimate them to human touch. Volunteer with small children at a Boys and Girls Club (or something like that). It is hard to be shy with kids, and they are funny as heck, too. They always can use folks for activities, for art projects, for tutoring. You can also try volunteering at a nursing home. That might be harder, as sometimes the elderly might not be as quick to interact as a dog or a toddler, but you would giving a hugely valuable gift of attention and time to a lonely and often forgotten population. All of these activities, btw, will look great on your college application forms. yeah those are some good tips thanks for the advice:D volunteering at an animal shelter is a good idea
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