hotgelato Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 So why is it that when I get some action, the boys always come in a bunch? I find myself going through a such a long dryspell with no boy in interest, then suddenly boom, i am swimming in the sea of boys. It is frustrated because I can't concentrate on one person; rather, I'm juggling everyone trying to see what's out there. I feel bad because I act like a sweet little girl when I am not! Do guys get turned off if they find out the girl they are seeing is a multi-tasker? I guess a little bit of that is attractive because it shows I'm demanded? lol. But I don't know how much I should let them know about me seeing other people, or not at all.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 So why is it that when I get some action, the boys always come in a bunch? I find myself going through a such a long dryspell with no boy in interest, then suddenly boom, i am swimming in the sea of boys. It is frustrated because I can't concentrate on one person; rather, I'm juggling everyone trying to see what's out there. I feel bad because I act like a sweet little girl when I am not! Do guys get turned off if they find out the girl they are seeing is a multi-tasker? I guess a little bit of that is attractive because it shows I'm demanded? lol. But I don't know how much I should let them know about me seeing other people, or not at all. Depends. If you're giving off a "one man kind of lady" vibe and they find out you're seeing multiple men, they may or may not be upset, depends on the guy, but if they do get upset, its probably because they felt deceived. Now you have a hang loose kind of vibe, everything is all good just for fun kind of deal and they find out you're seeing multiple guys, they probably wouldn't care. It all depends on the guy. Some are more serious and if you're dating them they expect already that you're just seeing them, unrealistic if you're not exclusive. Some just assume that you're seeing multiple people. When my GF and I first started talking we both assumed we were seeing multiple people because we're both fairly attractive and its expected with people our age. Later we found out it wasn't the case, specifically after we got exclusive. Best advice I can give you is to just give off that non-serious about relationship vibe. Don't trick them into thinking you're some sweet little girl if you aren't. That's deception. Nobody likes being deceived.
boldjack Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I don't know about these other guys, but if you and I were seeing each other and I found out that you were "playing". I know of one boy you would never have to worry about again.
mental_traveller Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 So why is it that when I get some action, the boys always come in a bunch? I find myself going through a such a long dryspell with no boy in interest, then suddenly boom, i am swimming in the sea of boys. It is frustrated because I can't concentrate on one person; rather, I'm juggling everyone trying to see what's out there. I feel bad because I act like a sweet little girl when I am not! Do guys get turned off if they find out the girl they are seeing is a multi-tasker? I guess a little bit of that is attractive because it shows I'm demanded? lol. But I don't know how much I should let them know about me seeing other people, or not at all. I had *exactly* this problem recently, just from the other perspective (I'm a guy). What I did was just be open that I am single and looking around. Some were put off, but others were cool with it and appreciated me being open with the truth. The "cure" for your problem is when you meet someone who feels right, and then you can just focus on them and bid the others adieu.
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