jaijolly Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I really like this person. I'm 27, she is around 33,single. We have an excellent connection too. But I've not asked her out till now. but want to. What do you think.. I have 2 issues. one is I still don't know if she has any 'romantic' feelings for me. secondly, the age difference makes me wonder, if she would agree to date me. (frankly , i don't have any issues with it). Its bugging me for several days now.. I'm caught in no -man's land on deciding what to do.. Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks. Jai.
Taramere Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I went out with a guy 7 years younger for a long time. I was embarrassed when he first asked me out, but he wasn't. He acted as though it was perfectly normal. On the first two dates, he didn't attempt to kiss me so I thought I was just a cool older sister figure for him. He said (later) that I'd given off vibes that made it difficult to approach me, and I suppose I did. I was a bit wary about that whole "older woman....loads of easy sex" mentality that, to a woman, can feel a bit objectifying. But he never made any kind of issue about the age difference, so I started to relax about it and just view it as two people who liked eachother rather than the older woman/toyboy scenario that some of my male friends were teasing me about. All you can really do is go for it and see how she responds. She might recognise the age gap as a potential problem in the future but she might be prepared to go for it nonetheless. By asking her out you're not promising this woman a lifelong commitment or anything like that - just inviting her to enjoy, on a more romantic basis, the connection she's already made with you.
Author jaijolly Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 thank u, but what exactly you mean by 'She might recognise the age gap as a potential problem in the future'.. I know things may not be perfect in terms of sex.. after a few years, but what other problems do you perceive.
stepka Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I really don't see a problem w/ it at all--I know lots of couples with that age difference--I see this one as an advantage b/c women live longer (by 6 yrs I think) than men so you guys will be even. My sis in law is married to a man 12 years younger and they are very happy. I just made a date w/ a man 20 years younger, so I'll see how much of a diff that makes.
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