yanx84 Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 So I wanna send flowers to a girl I really like. I know she likes me back but not sure how much just yet. We met 3 weeks ago and have only gone on one date since then. Granted the first time we met, we spent the entire day together so I do feel like I've gotten to know her pretty well by this point. Anyway, after our first date it went very well. I come to find out later on in the week that she got in an accident later after our date. She met up with her friends, as did I, and she got a DUI and spent the night in the hospital. She's pretty devastated by all this and I feel so bad for her. I sent her a text the day after we talked saying.. "Hey [girls name] I hope your feeling better today.. Enjoy the rest of your day :)" She sent me a text a few days later saying.. "hey sorry I didn't respond to your text the other day. It was really sweet but I was unfortunately not having a great day. How are you?" I responded.. "yeah I understand. If you ever wanna talk sometime you can give me a call. I'm doing good though. Hope your feeling better today". Would it be too much to send her flowers? I wanna be supportive without coming off creepy. We have already kissed a few times, held hands and stuff like that so I feel like I've gotten to know her well enough. However, there is still the fact that we're not dating and I'm just wondering if it's okay to do this. Your advice is much appreciated
EllieBean Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I think sending flowers would be just fine. Most girls like to receive flowers You can send flowers even if you're not dating - friends send flowers too you know! When I was off work after an accident my girlfriends in the office sent me a nice bouquet of flowers to cheer me up, so I think sending this girl flowers would be a nice gesture. You seem like a nice guy
Lucky_One Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I'm a girl, and it thrills me to no end to get flowers ANYTIME (well, except as condolences when I lose someone I love to death). I think that she would appreciate the sentiment very much.
Ronni_W Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Flowers are a *lovely* idea! -- a 'springtime' or 'pick-me-up' bouquet would be my suggestion -- keep the flowers and accompanying message light and friendly, is all. Depending on her response to the flowers, in a week or two, you could also consider sending a custom-made "IOU coupon" for a walk in the park, or lunch, or whatever, leaving it up to her to decide when that will take place. Also, of course, it never hurts to ask if she needs anything particular -- a ride to the grocery store, a box of chocolates, whatever.
samspade Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I was about to advise you against this until I read that she was in the hospital. If she is in the hospital, or at home recovering, flowers will be much appreciated, if you are sending them as a "get well soon" token. If your impulse is romantic, it's way too early to send flowers to her. I know the other people posting here think it's great - and it IS great - to receive flowers, but that will not help you if you are wooing this particular girl. You have only known her three weeks, and you will come across as over-eager and attempting to buy her affections. Once again, if the pretense is "get well soon" because you are concerned for her health, send away. If you are using that as an excuse to be romantic (but safe, as you have an excuse to fall back on), my advice is refrain. Flowers are for someone you have been dating long term, in my opinion, and even then only for very special occasions.
EllieBean Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Men like you, samspade, are the reason why us girls don't get flowers often enough! Flowers are NOT just for a special occasion - I really wouldn't like to be your girlfriend! Nothing cheers me up more than an unexpected bunch of flowers for no particular reason - my bf is a wonderful guy who loves me so I get flowers all the time
samspade Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Men like you, samspade, are the reason why us girls don't get flowers often enough! Flowers are NOT just for a special occasion - I really wouldn't like to be your girlfriend! Nothing cheers me up more than an unexpected bunch of flowers for no particular reason - my bf is a wonderful guy who loves me so I get flowers all the time To each his own I prefer to use them sparingly. That way they truly ARE unexpected. Though I agree, for no particular reason can be just as effective as for a special occasion. In any case, he is your boyfriend...This guy just met this girl. I think it's best to hold off on the flowers for romantic purposes.
Author yanx84 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 I'm certainly not trying to be romantic.. we're just not there yet. I'm a very sympathetic guy and well.. I like her. She's not in the hospital anymore. In fact she's just fine. Just mentally broken down. I too actually got a DUI about 5 years ago and felt like the world was crashing down on me. I seem to have gotten positive feedback on this so far, so here's what I'm thinking.. Send her flowers and in the card would be a cheesy joke as a pick me up. Maybe this?.. Two atoms are drinking at the bar. Suddenly one says to the other, "I've just lost one of my electrons!" "Are you sure?" asks the other. "Yes," replied the first atom. "I'm positive."
EllieBean Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Ha ha Is your girl scientifically minded enough to appreciate that? Or do her interests lie elsewhere? (If she's a scientist she'll probably howl with laughter at that one)
Author yanx84 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 no I just thought it was funny.. I mean who doesn't love cheesy jokes?!? She's a kindergarten teacher but I couldn't find anything good related to that. I was thinking either that one or this one.. A woman has twins and gives them up for adoption. One of them goes to a family in Egypt and is named "Ahmal" The other goes to a family in Spain.. they name him "Juan" Years later, Juan sends a picture of himself to his birth mother. Upon receiving the picture, she tells her husband that she wishes she also had a picture of Ahmal. Her husband responds, They're twins honey! If you've seen Juan, you've seen Ahmal".
Author yanx84 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 OH WAIT.. what about this one? A teacher notices a boy in her class using very foul language so she pulls the little boy aside to have a talk with him. "I never want to hear you using language like that again Johnny. Where on earth did you pick up such foul-mouthed talk like that?" asks the teacher. "From my dad," said Johnny. "Well, he should be ashamed of himself." said the teacher. "And there's no reason for you to talk like that anyway, you don't even know what it means." "Yes I do!" said Johnny. "It means the car won't start."
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