huck Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Hi.. been a regular on the 'breaking up' part of this site for the past month but things have changed a tad so thought id get some peoples opinions on my situation under this part of the forum. Basically my ex-gfriend dumped me a month ago. Loads of little reasons - drifting apart, she saw me as a best friend instead of a lover etc. There was no one else involved either. Over the past month we have tried a couple of times to get back together and work on things but we decided yesterday that there was too much baggage and it would never work.. Anyway - last night she admitted to me that she went away on a business trip with her boss a couple of months ago where they had to stay overnight. I remember the trip as id rung her a couple of times to say goodnight - but she never picked up the phone. She told me that they both got drunk and ended up back in his room watching tv together on the bed. One thing led to another and they started kissing. She says they didnt do anything else ( not sure wether to believe her ).. This has proved to me that I dont want to be this girl whatsoever. I loved her to bits but the one thing I cant stand is cheaters and at the moment I hate her to bits. One good thing is that this has brought closure on the relationship and i know ill never want anything to do with her again. The guy she kissed is married with a kid on the way. As i said hes her boss and meant to be in a position of trust. The one thing im thinking is should I tell his wife about what he has done. If I was married id want to know if i was going out with a filthy cheater. I dont want to break up the marriage but he knew perfectly well what he was doing getting into bed with my girlfriend. I suppose im hurt and a little annoyed as this guy is a serious minger but want to see if anbody else has been in this position. cheers.
jnj express Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Yes very definetly tell this guy's wife. She has a right to know what kind of slime she has for a husband. Pregnant wife at home and he is spending the night with another woman, and i have serious doubts that their night ended with kissing, i would be willing to bet they went way past kissing. Be done with your GF, and tell Slime's wife.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 IF you decide to tell this guys wife... you have to 1. Be anonymous and 2. Be truthful. All you have is hearsay! Make sure you don't present it as anything more than a rumor.
Author huck Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 Dont worry - my ex is long gone.. i hate her guts.. Ive been thinking about telling the cheating scums wife and Im probably motivated by a mix of revenge and hate. I really want to make him suffer but is it worth breaking up a family over At the end of the day without becoming a weird stalker theres no way i can contact her. He knew i was going to say something and his FB profile has mysteriousy vanished. I believe in karma and hopefully hell get his one day... Im dating a lovely girl now - 10 times the woman my cheating skanky ex was.. I just sooooo hate cheaters...
Danger Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 I believe in karma and hopefully hell get his one day... You ARE Karma. Tell her.
Author huck Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 how can i tell her if I cant get in touch?? He works for the same company as me.. I cant risk my job by pulling any weird stuff at work and hes refused to meet up out of work.. The guys a spineless Pr*ck.. What kind of loser makes out with another girl when his wifes pregnant..
Danger Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 how can i tell her if I cant get in touch?? He works for the same company as me.. I cant risk my job by pulling any weird stuff at work and hes refused to meet up out of work.. The guys a spineless Pr*ck.. What kind of loser makes out with another girl when his wifes pregnant.. If you know his last name, you can find out where he lives and contact his wife that way. Here's the larger problem, if you and your ex hate eachother now, then who is to say the wife will even believe you? If your ex cannot assist you or corroborate your story, you will face an uphill battle in doing this. Find another way to ruin the pricks life.
citizen67 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Jusy move on with your life and worry about yourself
imagine Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Doesn't matter how OMW gets told, so long as she is told. You are irrelevant but please get you facts together to make it convincing.
Sibyl Vane Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Give yourself time to calm down before you do anything. I despise cheaters as well but really, this is not something you should be deciding when you are in this state of mind. What you want to do is driven purely by revenge, remember this is a woman that probably loves and respects her husband very much. Do you really think you are able to break this to her as sensitively and kindly as you should? I think not. Plus she's pregnant...do you really think she'll thank you if she loses her child?
In Like Flynn Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 Do you have any emails or records of phone calls etc? To show the wife.
Author huck Posted April 1, 2009 Author Posted April 1, 2009 i havent got any records im afraid.. My ex has said if i start any trouble they will just deny it... I agree with one of the previous posters about the baby thing. I couldnt care less if the wife dumps the cheating scum - but not sure if I could live with myself if anything happens to the unborn kid. Might just wait till its born... Putting myself in the wifes position - Id probably believe some random guy telling her out of the blue that her husband was cheating.. If I was a girl - then she might think its some jealous person with crush on her hubby.. - but why would i lie ?? Not sure what their boss would say about what happended.. again i cant really prove it.. Ive got texts saved that i sent her - but i could just be making it up as far as anyone else is concerned..
Author huck Posted April 11, 2009 Author Posted April 11, 2009 Hi all... Just thought id reserect this post as stuff has changed a bit since I last posted. In the past couple of days me and my ex have talked about giving things a go again. Taking it slow - no rush.. Thats fair enough - its up to me to make my own mistakes and risk getting hurt etc.. I can kind of forgive her for the previous cheating as it was only a kiss - I believe her - shes rubbish at lying.. The one big thing is that she admitted yesterday that a couple of weeks ago she went out for some drinks with her boss.. ( you can see where this is going ).. They both got drunk and went back to his place and slept together.. No contraception - she had to get the morning after pill... She fealt she had to tell me this as she wanted to be totally honest. The cheating hubbys pregnant wife was away on a business trip btw. I dont feel overly jealous as we werent together and ive slept with a girl in this time.. But its made me think - do i give things with her a try - will i ever be able to trust her again.. Shes put herself in a stupid position again by going back to his house.. Her excuse was 'I got drunk' !!! So in total - this guy with a pregnant wife has so far snogged my girlfriend in his hotel room and then slept with her in his bed a few weeks later. I dont know wether to get back with her or to tell her to take a hike and tell his wife... As i said in my first post - this guy is a minger - hes talking advantage of a young girl with emotional issues. I think his wife definetly deserves to know now...
lostsunsets Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Sure take her back, have fun. But goodness sake don't ever marry her. She is deceitful and not worth any type of long term investment.
Sco Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 dont know wether to get back with her or to tell her to take a hike and tell his wife... And the answer is "Take a hike and tell his wife".. voila!
Sco Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 oh.. by the way, there's a lot more going on with her boss than she's telling you.. it is way too obvious.
mark982 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 i'd watch my azz if i was you.she says she had unprotected sex,and took the morning after pill. you honestly don't believe that crap do you.watch to make sure she don't try to SURPRISE you with little junior.
LostLamb Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Why get back together with a woman who is working with a man she has kissed and shagged on separate occasions? It will happen again in time. They must have alot of chemistry if she risked sleeping with him without protection , his wife should know becaus I doubt it is the first time he has cheated and he needs to be screened.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Why get back together with a woman who is working with a man she has kissed and shagged on separate occasions? It will happen again in time. They must have alot of chemistry if she risked sleeping with him without protection , his wife should know becaus I doubt it is the first time he has cheated and he needs to be screened. I agree. How is she gonna try to get back together with you and she's still working for the boss she cheated with while she was with you in the first place? Why would you willingly accept that? Are you crazy? she hasnt matured! she hasnt grown up, she hasnt had that sense of remorse from what you wrote! Why are you even entertaining the thought, matter of fact, why are you still talking to her!!!???
LostFocus Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Please don't get back with her. That would be a huge mistake.
In Like Flynn Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 She didn't have to tell you that!!! So that is something. But yeah just date and screw(with protection)...don't feel anything more that that. Maybe she will grow up ....but maybe not.
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