smile_through_tears Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I love my friends but it hurts me when I'm feeling down (like today) and I hear stories such as "my ex just called and wants to get back and told me he loves me." I sound like a jealous little b*i*t*c*h. I want my friends to be happy no questions about that but I wish that would ahve happened to me too. Damn my ex never even CARED to call NOT ONCE...to ask how am I doing...Just texts and they were never personal...Being distant to let me heal or simply doesnt give a sh** Whatever, I hate stories like that. Im going to sleep and clear my head. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day! Goodnight friends of LS:)
quankanne Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 breaking up and making up isn't all that it sounds to be ... especially when there's no growth or maturity in key players, because that only sets the stage for further break-ups. Because as nice as it sounds to get back with an ex, there's a good reason why that person is an ex ... and why you should look forward, not keep trying to reclaim the past. that said, if you and a guy are meant to be, God or fate or the heavens or whatever you want to call it, already has it planned when you two will be together again. frankly, trying to rekindle something with an ex (most likely because you don't want to be alone or are afraid to embrace the possibilities of something/someone new) sounds like disaster, pure and simple. be happy for them, kiddo ... but brace yourself for the possibility of having to pick up the pieces of your friend's broken heart when she realizes the relationship really isn't working.
EmperorR Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Eh I used to wish that, but then I see one of my good friends his ex dumped him, but he sees his ex everywhere, she invites him over, but all she wants is friendship and they share the same friends ouch. My Ex hasn't contacted me in 7 months, but it gave me time to heal and find someone new.
northstar1 Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I love my friends but it hurts me when I'm feeling down (like today) and I hear stories such as "my ex just called and wants to get back and told me he loves me." I sound like a jealous little b*i*t*c*h. I want my friends to be happy no questions about that but I wish that would ahve happened to me too. Damn my ex never even CARED to call NOT ONCE...to ask how am I doing...Just texts and they were never personal...Being distant to let me heal or simply doesnt give a sh** Whatever, I hate stories like that. Im going to sleep and clear my head. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day! Goodnight friends of LS:) It hurts, to think they don't care to call you, etc. But, unless the ex is calling to want to try things again, and whatever was broken before is now fixed, then an ex contacting you rarely ever amounts to anything good. Read the stories on here, a lot of people are given scraps from an ex (for ego stroking, validation, boredom etc) are kept in a cycle of pain for months while they hold onto hope. It seems counter intutive, but an ex not contacting you is actually doing you a favour in the long run.
Sam Spade Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 It hurts, to think they don't care to call you, etc. But, unless the ex is calling to want to try things again, and whatever was broken before is now fixed, then an ex contacting you rarely ever amounts to anything good. Read the stories on here, a lot of people are given scraps from an ex (for ego stroking, validation, boredom etc) are kept in a cycle of pain for months while they hold onto hope. It seems counter intutive, but an ex not contacting you is actually doing you a favour in the long run. And in the rare cases when the two sides have matured and moved on, once the ex calls back in in a stable state of mind, you might be already engaged to somebody else . It is really hard to let go of the "what if..." mentality. i guess that's the silver lining of a break up. Really forces you to rething your whole life and open your eyes to other posibilities.
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