Derek12b Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Anyone in here like I am, just waiting for their wife or husband to come home, needs to hear some good things. This is for the people who haven't given up, let go, and are willing to overcome all obstacles. The peole who don't think its a game. The people who are just in love.
LakesideDream Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I haven't heard a story like that lately. I do remember the last one started with.... Once upon a time....
Gunny376 Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I haven't heard a story like that lately. I do remember the last one started with.... Once upon a time.... :lmao: :lmao: Once you get the "I love you ~ but I'm not in love with you line",................or "I need space" line,................or the "I need time to figure myself out?",...............................its pretty much a done deal! They're not going? They're gone!
Woggle Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 It's a happy ending when you don't have her nagging you in the house anymore.
Gunny376 Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 :lmao: :lmao: Once you get the "I love you ~ but I'm not in love with you line",................or "I need space" line,................or the "I need time to figure myself out?",...............................its pretty much a done deal! They're not going? They're gone! I hear any of those lines? The locks to the house have been changed and your trash is out by the curb! I come home and all the nick-nacks you collect are missing? Your gone! The savings, IRA, CD account is suddenly drained? Your history! Girls Night Out? You need to stay at the GF's house! The locks to the house are already changed, credit cards closed, debit & checking accounts changed, and your clothes/belongings are on the curb!
dead-dyke Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 Once upon a time... I think it is happening right now. To me. 1.5 years after separation, and a recent divorce from her, not 5 - 6 months ago, we seem to be investigating the possibility for the last couple of months. I don't want to get my hopes up, but we seem to be starting fresh. Believe it or not. It is a painfully slow process, though. I'm not claiming success, but it is going in that direction for the time being. They say that they never come around till you are TRULY over them. Believe that. Biggest thing is, you need to confront your own issues before this happens. But walking w/ her in a store today, I told her that if anyone would have told me we would be walking through this store together, even 6 months ago, I would have told them they were on crack........ True story. So if you can stomach the hope, then don't give up that hope. Just put it on a back burner, and re-evaluate when, and if the time comes up. This is one of the reasons my comments have been scarce lately. Not that they helped anyway, but I read this tid-bit of where I once was, and wanted to let you know that... it's possible.. But like I say, I'm not claiming success. Yet. PS - No kids, so don't think that's the reason. There is still feelings on both parts. She said many things to me in the beginning of this mess, as do the things I said to her in the heat of the moment, that we regret. So if there was once love there, there is the biggest possibility that it can come back. And always remember this - I'm not perfect, and nobody is, but I'm in a better place now, and like someone wise (in this site) told me, if you're in a better position to deal w/ this stuff and learn from it, you will be fine. Even if it's just you.
RecordProducer Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 OK, dead-dyke was not convincing with his "going to the store" story. They just went to the store together. A happy stpry is what Woggle said when you're over them and feeling good. I have a happy story like that with my first separation. My ex and I have two kids together and we're good friends now. With my second husband, it's still fresh and slightly unfriendly, but he seems to want me back after he kicked me out of his life. I guess that's what interests you. But how does it apply to your case? Look, whatever wil be will be. You're waiting for actions and words, but really, they depend on feelings. And whatever your ex-wife feels about tou is undeniable. She either loves you or she doesn't. She either thinks you can be togeher again or she doesn't. The only thing you can do is convince her that you're a great person. But I wouldn't alter my identity just to be with someone. It's not worth it.
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