Monty36 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 well for starters let me just say that my ex and i are friends now and we've been broken up for about a month now but i still have feelings for her. so last night around one in the morning, after getting home from a friends house my ex and her friend call me and ask if they can come stay over tonight because apparently they were drunk and couldn't go home what with their parents being home and all. i agreed thinking 1. its a chance to see her 2. it may lead somewhere positive (relationship wise, not sex) 3. I've always been there in the past for her even before we started dating so i cant turn her away. now while we were all in bed (me her and her friend) me and her aren't exactly snuggling but shes like resting on me which is more than she would do with her other guy friends. We end up talking periodically throughout the night her telling me about her night, work, school, etc. and sort of flirting as i saw it and then again once we all got up in the morning. one kind of awkward moment, however, is when she asked me about all the pictures i had of her and why they were down. i just told her they were hard to look at. so im curious as to what she might be thinking about that. well after i snuck her and her friend out to their car we just hugged each other and said goodbye. soon after they left and i had showered she began to text me and now we've just been talking. So im curious to know 1. What is she thinking about seeing all the pictures of her down and why would she even bring it up, and two if me letting her stay the night was a positive thing or if it just showed im still the "good friend" of hers
flash582 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 It's hard to tell ..... Keep playing like you're just a little bit interested ..... but it's no big deal either way. Don't text her, and no long drawn out answers. If she doesn't come back in two more weeks .... start dating and cut off contact.
rebmalove Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 well for starters let me just say that my ex and i are friends now and we've been broken up for about a month now but i still have feelings for her. so last night around one in the morning, after getting home from a friends house my ex and her friend call me and ask if they can come stay over tonight because apparently they were drunk and couldn't go home what with their parents being home and all. i agreed thinking 1. its a chance to see her 2. it may lead somewhere positive (relationship wise, not sex) 3. I've always been there in the past for her even before we started dating so i cant turn her away. now while we were all in bed (me her and her friend) me and her aren't exactly snuggling but shes like resting on me which is more than she would do with her other guy friends. We end up talking periodically throughout the night her telling me about her night, work, school, etc. and sort of flirting as i saw it and then again once we all got up in the morning. one kind of awkward moment, however, is when she asked me about all the pictures i had of her and why they were down. i just told her they were hard to look at. so im curious as to what she might be thinking about that. well after i snuck her and her friend out to their car we just hugged each other and said goodbye. soon after they left and i had showered she began to text me and now we've just been talking. So im curious to know 1. What is she thinking about seeing all the pictures of her down and why would she even bring it up, and two if me letting her stay the night was a positive thing or if it just showed im still the "good friend" of hers I think you letting her come over was a good idea due to your history as being friends prior to your relationship... but relationship wise I think it was bad... very bad. You guys havn't been broken up for a long time so of course you will still have feelings. As a woman, I think she may have called you just because you were conveniant and she knew that u wouldn't say no. I don't think you could have gotten anything positive out of her staying over due to her being drunk. How old are you guys? Why were you all in one bed? That's kinda setting yourself up don't u think? I think she may have asked about the pictures to know whether or not you have moved on, had another girl there, you know stuff like that.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 I think you letting her come over was a good idea due to your history as being friends prior to your relationship... but relationship wise I think it was bad... very bad. You guys havn't been broken up for a long time so of course you will still have feelings. As a woman, I think she may have called you just because you were conveniant and she knew that u wouldn't say no. I don't think you could have gotten anything positive out of her staying over due to her being drunk. How old are you guys? Why were you all in one bed? That's kinda setting yourself up don't u think? I think she may have asked about the pictures to know whether or not you have moved on, had another girl there, you know stuff like that. i have to agree with this person just cause im a girl and from a girls point of view first off its been a month!!!! and your still not back together or anything a girl usually moves if its been that long. i know if i really still cared about someone i couldn't go a freakin month without contact or hanging out with them every other day or something to stay in contact. she might still have feelings but just play it cool dont ask her whats going on or how she feels just let her be the one to bring it up if anything. and just treat her like a normal friend dont answer her texts right away or every call you know...
Author Monty36 Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 I think you letting her come over was a good idea due to your history as being friends prior to your relationship... but relationship wise I think it was bad... very bad. You guys havn't been broken up for a long time so of course you will still have feelings. As a woman, I think she may have called you just because you were conveniant and she knew that u wouldn't say no. I don't think you could have gotten anything positive out of her staying over due to her being drunk. How old are you guys? Why were you all in one bed? That's kinda setting yourself up don't u think? I think she may have asked about the pictures to know whether or not you have moved on, had another girl there, you know stuff like that. Well she wasn't exactly plastered drunk or anything she was just a little tipsy, and she later told me they came over because her friend wanted to still be out and party but she wanted to just relax and sleep and i was the only guy she actually trusted. but another thing i found interesting is she has plenty of other friends who would gladly welcome her so why me?
rebmalove Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Well she wasn't exactly plastered drunk or anything she was just a little tipsy, and she later told me they came over because her friend wanted to still be out and party but she wanted to just relax and sleep and i was the only guy she actually trusted. but another thing i found interesting is she has plenty of other friends who would gladly welcome her so why me? Humm... ok, I think she told you, because you were 'the only guy she actually trusted' Maybe she wanted to see what u were up to?
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