zaphodb2002 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Okay, so here's the deal. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now, but we're taking it slow, which I'm absolutely fine with. We kiss, but nothing really more than that has happened so far. We both live with our parents, so an opportunity to sleep together has never really arisen, until now. Her friend invited us over for the weekend, to stay in her spare room. Now, my girlfriend is not much of a flirty type, and she's usually very relaxed and straightforward. I should probably also mention that she's a virgin, though she's not squeamish about talking about sex. When she found about about this weekend, she's been strangely excited about it, and made sure, many times, lol, that I would be available and able to go. She's also been a bit (not a lot, but noticeably, at least to me) more physical, holding my hand more, initiating more kisses, things like that. Now, I'm perfectly happy just sleeping next to her, though I'll let her lead and see what happens. What do you think? Is sex on her mind, or is she just excited about a nice evening together? Either way is fine by me, just curious as to an outside opinion.
samspade Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Bring plenty of condoms! I'd say she wants you to sleep with her, my friend. Now, she might change her mind, as it is a big step. My advice is for YOU to take the lead, but not in a forceful way. If she draws a line somewhere, stay on your side of the line, and be fine with it (sounds like you will be). The key is whether she protests or not. If you have your hand up her shirt, and she doesn't move it, keep going. If you undo her fly, and she doesn't move your hand or fasten it, keep going. However, go very slow, don't be in a hurry...enjoy the ride. You will know if she is ready. If you get to a point where you're ABOUT to have sex but she has an about-face, don't protest, don't beg, don't get upset. Just smile and say "I'm sure it will be worth the wait."
kdark Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I wouldn't go as far to say sex is on her mind. But she is definitely looking at this as a time to get more physical with you.
Author zaphodb2002 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 If you get to a point where you're ABOUT to have sex but she has an about-face, don't protest, don't beg, don't get upset. Just smile and say "I'm sure it will be worth the wait." I'd never push her into anything. Good advice though. I suppose I'll just play it by ear. To be honest, I'm a little nervous about this, lol. I've been with lots of other girls, but I like this one a lot. Part of me almost hopes she wants to wait, lol. We'll see what happens.
samspade Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 A little anxiety is good...it builds the tension and makes sex much better. It has been my experience that women view patience in man as a virtue, as well as a challenge. Too many men are eager to get it on; they're a dime a dozen. If you show that you're willing to wait for her, she will probably NOT want to wait. It's a weird paradox, but rather than attempt to understand it, I just accept it.
Author zaphodb2002 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 Aww I got cancelled on. Her friend ended up having to do something tonight. We've rescheduled to tuesday night. Wish me luck!
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