fivefive Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Okay so I've asked this girl out twice already. She goes to my school and we have a couple classes together. She seemed to really like me in the beginnings of school. So, the first time I asked her she seemed really excited that I did. But she said she was just packed with plans that she had already commited to. She kinnndd of counter offered. This was just before Thanksgiving Vacation by the way. She said maybe sometime after Thanksgiving. She said she would let me know...she never did. So a few weeks pass and I ask her again. I called her on the phone to ask her. She seemed surprised and happy that I called but again when I asked her she said she already made plans to go out with her girlfriend. She didn't offer a different day or time. It's been a while now since I last asked her to go out. The thing is I don't know if I should anymore. I mean if she was really interested she would have counter offered in my mind. Shes said she's reallly busy and she doesn't have time right now. Another interesting point is that she says she's not trying to "blow me off" and she says that she really means that. In that same convo we had she also said she doesn't date anymore because she can't commit, but the thing is I never mentioned that us going out would be a "date" or committing to each other. She brought it up herself. So what should I do? One side of me is saying that I shouldn't because she's just going to say the same thing but another tells me I should. But it's already been two times now...What should I do?
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 "I'm busy" = not interested "I don't date" = making sure you don't ask her out again "I'm not trying to blow you off" = she is blowing you off, but wants to be nice about it What you see as 'excitement' and 'enthusiasm' is for her just being polite and not wanting to appear to be a bitch. She is likely flattered at the attention, but not really interested in anything past that. What to do? Set your sights elsewhere. This one isn't going to pan out.
samspade Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I agree, move on. If someone wants to be with you, she will make time for you. Actions speak louder than words. And about the "date" thing: You were calling her up to ask her on a date. Own it. If she says she's not dating right now, don't try to cover yourself by acting like it wouldn't have been a date. I'm presuming you don't want to just be friends with her. If you hear that "not dating right now" line again, say something like, "Oh, too bad. Well I am, so I guess I'll take out another girl. Take care."
sugarmomma Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I agree. Move on to other fish in the sea. Be polite to her but don't ask her out again. She is definitely not interested. If I like a guy, he doesn't have to ask me out more than once. Good Luck!
Author fivefive Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 ok i won't ask her out again. I was leaning towards that anyways but I just needed other people's perspectives on the situation..the thing is she really seemed interested but you're right when you say actions speak louder than words.
DarkestDreams Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I agree as well. Look at her actions, not her "enthusiasm": she said "no" on two separate occasions and she threw in the "not dating right now" excuse to make sure you understand she doesn't want you to pursue her anymore. Stop asking her out, it's only going to make you look like the guy who can't get a hint. Plenty of other girls out there that would be flattered by your attention
Author fivefive Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 yup youre right..dont worry i got other girls
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