Married couples do you see single friends as a threat?

[MeaganRaye]

There have been situations where a married woman cut off her single friends because her husband didn't like her hanging around them

 

And in other situations where a married woman distances herself away from single women because she fears that the single woman may prey on her husband. etc

 

Do any of the married couples choose to exclude single people from your inner ciricle as a way to protect your relationship?

[Chat]

Are we talking of the same sex or opposite?

 

If my partner cut off contact with a person without a valid reason - inappropriate behaviour etc on either party - I would tell him to suck a lemon

[Nikki Sahagin]

I can understand why it would appear threatening. It seems more 'normal' to match with other married friends; that way you are relating with people similar to yourself. But I think it's pretty impossible. You don't know where your friends will end up. Some married, some happily single, some divorced. I CAN understand the threat though....

[Quest4clue]

I'd say yes and no. Depends on the situation.

 

If the married women's single women friends are flirty and hot to trot, I would say yes they could very well be a threat to a marriage, if their clothes are coming off anywhere, sort of speak.

 

This threat could be in a couple different ways.

One being to the married women, who may choose to follow in her single women friends footsteps.

 

And second, because they have nothing to loose because they are single, they could hit on the married women's husband.

 

At the end of the day, if your marriage is not strong, anything is possible.

 

The same goes for men, in this situation.

 

Single ppl would be no more of a threat than another married man to a married women or vise versa.

 

In fact, from what I have seen over the years, it is more common to see married ppl fool around on each other with other married ppl, than with other single ppl.

 

If your relationship is rocky, I might consider anyone with two legs a threat to be honest!

 

Get your **** together and you will have little worry.

 

I hope this helped some.

[pink love]

Actually I do belive that married people should'nt hang around singles for the simple fact that they no longer have anything in common.

[Quest4clue]

Yeah, but what about the single friends who were married before, had children, ect. Does that make a difference?

[carhill]

I don't believe married people should control each others friends. They should control themselves

 

So, to answer the OP, no.

[BlueEyedGirl]

At my work for example there are two distinct groups of people that tend to socialize together: married group and single group. Although I am the same/friendly with each I have never been invited to a married person's house and I have been to single ppl's houses many times. I overhear married people planning BBQs or a day at the beach with the kids etc. I sometimes wish that I was invited. Generally, MW tend to ignore me and talk over me while MM check me out or flirt. So yeah not much possibility for a friendship there.

[carhill]

IMO, find a different social circle than that contained by work. What you shared doesn't sound very healthy to me.

[ladyinwaiting]

If your "friends" are preying on your husband/wife/SO, or even if you fear that they may, they are hardly your "friends".

 

I've got a solid little group of friends - male and female, some married, some not. We all still see movies, play cards, discuss politics, have dinner parties ... I don't really see that marital status has much to do with what we have in common. Plus, we're all comfortable enough with each other to not even contemplate someone "preying."

 

Actually, nowI *am* contemplating it, I'm finding it rather disturbing. Who'd want to sleep with someone who is sleeping with a friend anyway? Ick.

[imani]

If your "friends" are preying on your husband/wife/SO, or even if you fear that they may, they are hardly your "friends".

 

I've got a solid little group of friends - male and female, some married, some not. We all still see movies, play cards, discuss politics, have dinner parties ... I don't really see that marital status has much to do with what we have in common. Plus, we're all comfortable enough with each other to not even contemplate someone "preying."

 

Actually, nowI *am* contemplating it, I'm finding it rather disturbing. Who'd want to sleep with someone who is sleeping with a friend anyway? Ick.

 

Unfortunately, the answer to your question is "plenty". I hate to sound like a downer, but seriously there are married men and women who do cheat with their spouse's friend and sometimes there are those that will even go so far as to sleep with their spouse's relative.

 

I think some people feel that if you take vows, that should pretty much nix out anything close to competition and wandering but it doesn't. Some may consider it a challenge to try to see if they can seduce a married friend's partner and just as Blue stated, there are those who hit on their partner's single friends as well.

 

Personally, I think there is a sickness of the mind to sleep with a friend's spouse and for a married spouse to hit on someone's single friend or single relative. Too weird.

[lonelyandfrustrated]

I have found the biggest threat to the marriage to be single people who give the married friend crap about their 'lack of freedom'. As a married woman and mother, no, I can't just take off for a week at the beach, girls only, nor do I want to, and I'd appreciate you not giving me crap about it. Likewise, my H also has responsibilities at home, and I don't appreciate his single friends giving him crap about not going out clubbing on Friday nights, or telling him that he should be able to do whatever he wants with the money he earns (buy my boat, dude! you'll love it!), as if he wasn't supporting a family of six.

 

But excluding honest, respectful people because of marital status? No, I can't see pre-judging people that way. A lot of married people I know are jerks, too. I think the important thing in choosing friends when married is to make sure that they are not just your friend, but friends of your marriage. Whether they happen to be married or not.

[Trialbyfire]

There have been situations where a married woman cut off her single friends because her husband didn't like her hanging around them

 

And in other situations where a married woman distances herself away from single women because she fears that the single woman may prey on her husband. etc

 

Do any of the married couples choose to exclude single people from your inner ciricle as a way to protect your relationship?

My closest male and female friends are married to each other so no, there's no friction there at all. When I was single, they did have an annoying habit of trying to find someone for me but since they were doing it with my best interests in mind, it was okay.

[liveandlove]

Actually I do belive that married people should'nt hang around singles for the simple fact that they no longer have anything in common.

 

They no longer have anything in common? Were they only friends before to be on the prowl together? Sorry, but that makes no sense to me- if someone were to ask what I had in common with my friends, marital status would probably be way down there on the list.