Nahanni Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I have been dating this guy for almost two years, he doesn't want to comit as we both have young kids and it's 'complicated ' as he says. Then I read an e-mail he sent to his buddy last week. (oh and I guess he calls me "french/canada"- I didn't know and find it offending and impersonnal) ...yes I had some suspicions about his fidelity and I checked his e-mails... This is what he wrote: "I think French/canda woman is kinda looking for a commitment so I'm riding the fence on that decsion as long as I can...not sure what to do there. She's great but 2 young kids scares me as that's what terri [ex partner] had & they ended up driving me nuts.. & then a couple months ago this syco chick at work (33, kinda hot) told me she wants to have an affair with me, & then another married chick at work 35, getting divorced,I think told me at our last work happy hour she had a thang for me...what the hell!! Why all married ones!!!???? First 1 I think I will stay away from even if she was single, but the second 1 would be tempting if she was single as she is smart & pretty damn hot too. She would be fun for a couple nights that's for sure" and then he replied again to his body about his 'hot' co-worker: "gotta say the soon-to-maybe divorced 35 yr old is looking pretty hot but I'm not touching that until she's at least seperated..I do have some morals...... Anyway things are pretty good with canada, we got together over Thanksgiving & had dinner/wine/laughs. This could be the one but how does 1 really know when there are really so many out there that need to be 'tapped'!! " So I am confused and need some matcho male talk expert here. is he just blowin smoke to his body or is he really thinking about other women. he says he loves me every day he says he wants to spend his life with me (but not for a couple more years through). advice ??????
collegekid491 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Its all talk. Honestly, I've said similar things in my gf's hearing range and she knows I'm just 'flexing' my ego. Us guys though... we can be pretty careless with our words. Basically he's trying to feel like a player around his buddy's to feel like a big shot, or relate to single friends because no offense... I don't talk to my buddies about my teddy bear feelings. What I find interesting though is you checked his emails. You date someone for 2 years, you should trust them, or somethings wrong. I personally have dumped many girls for prying into my private life, not because there's anything to hide, but because it shows they really don't know me at all.
Loxx Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 it is a funny email. It is Macho talk! Read between the lines. She is looking for a commitment She's great but 2 young kids scares me things are pretty good with canada This could be the one The rest of that is just garbage men say to each other. Im assumming he is divorced? Probably some fears comming into play from that also. But the other women could pose a serious threat expecially one getting a divorce. Honestly sounds like he knows hes got a great thing with you, and he would have to be pretty stupid to mess it up for a piece of ass, but some men are weak. You have to decide.
zilverenvlinder Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 My male friend used to talk to me all the time about all the hot women at his office and how he wanted to screw them, even though he was in a committed relationship. Guess what? He never did. Men can be pigs but it's usually all talk. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but after two f--king years I definitely would back off a little and make him miss you. It works. Men think the same.
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