what can you do when the person says that isnt in love anymore? :(

[olganom]

hello, hope you can give me some advice and help right now.

 

my and my beloved been in LDR for over 6 months or so now.

 

And now today got lil snappy becuase i asked in a sencetive subject.

 

And got to that the one i love more than anything told me that wasnt IN love anymore, did love me but didnt have the strong feelings like it used too.

 

I asked if was any reason, and just get "i dont know" and had been like this for the last month =\

 

IM very sad and confused and desperate to make it good again.

 

How do you make a person fall back in love again with you? =(

[KikiW]

My first instinct is to say this is the right time for the bloom to start fading from the rose... the initial giddiness is wearing off, the excitement has dulled down a bit. Most relationships hit that stage. A person can move to Las Vegas and say "WOW! This place is exciting! All the lights and shows and cool stuff!" and six months later they look around and say "eh, seen it."

 

Have a heart-to-heart and ask if that is the case. Talk about ways you can make it exciting again. See if you can spend some time together in person by taking a long weekend. Communicate!

 

Hopefully you'll be able to resolve things and this is just a little bump.

[EllieBean]

If someone doesn't love you any more, then you can't "make" them love you. Is your SO a boy or a girl? It seems a bit weird to refer to your SO as "it"

[olganom]

sorry if sounds like "it" just trying to keep it nutrual someway..

 

Im not want false love either, as She said, she loves me, but not IN love.

And lost the strong feelings she once had? idk.. :\

 

Is there ways to gain this feeling? idk cards? nice txts? or stuff?

[EllieBean]

An LDR is quite difficult because you don't have much of a physical relationship; maybe this is what your girlfriend is missing? She's starting to see you as a friend who she loves, not as a partner who she's in love with. The main difference between a close friendship and a relationship is the physical side of things, so maybe it would help if you could meet up, or even just send some sexy texts or have cyber-sex online. Try to make her see you as a lover again, rather than just as a friend.

[Island Girl]

Please do not type in "text speak" here.

 

If we are going to take the time to try to provide you with support and possible insight the very least you can do in return is take the time to communicate your problem in a way that is easy to read.

You would probably get more responses as well.

 

As to your girlfriend, well, it sounds as if you are young.

 

It could be that your girlfriend was "in love" with the feeling of falling in love. That is usually in the beginning when you are learning about each other and every thing is new.

It has settled now. It is not new anymore.

Her friends may have boyfriends that aren't long distance and she is feeling she is missing somethings by you being so far away.

Maybe she has even seen someone she is attracted to. It does happen. Especially with young people in relationships. They can be fickle.

 

You can't make her fall in love with you again.

The only thing you really can do is show her what she will be missing if she doesn't have you anymore.

 

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

If she still cares at all for you then missing you may strengthen that.

But she can't miss someone who is still there.