imstuckinatree3 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I was wondering how to get this girls number without looking like a retard. She works at the bank that i go to. She is fairly new (maybe only working there a month or so). Anyways, i always go in to the bank to deposit my weekly check. Each time she has been the first one to offer to assist me. She appears to be in my age range, (19-23). Today she deposited my paycheck and i needed her to cash a check also. The check was from my dad,(we bank at the same bank), so there was no need to do anything but have me swipe my card, but she asked for my ID. I believe she was checking how old i was. Plus i have had her do this three times already and she has never asked for it. And when i left, she began talking with another teller and notioning my way. So heres my question. I would like to get her number. But i know she has to be professional working at a bank and all. So i was thinking maybe slipping her a note with my number on it or a note asking her for her number, or something like that. Would something like this work? Theres another potential problem though. I keep just barley enough money in my account to pay my bills. I invest the rest or keep it in cash. So when looking at my account,(which she can do) I appear pretty poor. If thats important to her...im screwed. Also, she is fairly attractive. So if she gets hit on all day, and i ask for her number, will that just piss her off.
Treasa Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 DO NOT slip her a note! My boyfriend used to be a banker/teller, and he'd tell you that she'll hit that Security button so fast that it'll make your head spin. Generally, a note handed to a teller, especially when seen on a security camera, is a signal that you're trying to rob the place. I asked my boyfriend about your situation, and he said female tellers see this kind of thing a lot, so she may be really tired of it. However, if you really think she likes you, ask her out to lunch. His advice, not mine. He also said (which I already knew) that her looking at your account without reason is a huge no-no and can get her fired, so she probably won't do that.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I'd go with Treasa's advice. My GF was a teller and she'd get hit on everyday. She was really sick of it. From Flo Rida to perverted old men. One guy even got her address from a co-worker and showed up at her house with flowers and ****....uninvited. Had to get a restraining order on him and he wasn't allowed back at her bank. Don't come off as a creep, just be genuine about it.
zilverenvlinder Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 You're in luck. I am a personal banker/former bank teller, and I've gone on a date with a customer. I will tell you how he handled it. (It didn't work out, but he got the date!) So this nice looking guy would come in on Fridays and he would always wait in line until I was available. He knew my name from my little name card, and he always called me by my name and was very friendly. I had no idea he was interested in me, I just thought he was more comfortable with me doing his banking. (This is common.) So one Friday, he came up to my window and said, "Hey, Z, so how late does this branch stay open on Fridays, anyway?" I replied with, "6:00." "So, I'm assuming that's when they let you go for the night, then?" Me, "Yep, around 6:15 actually." He smiled at me very sweetly, and said, "So, you know I just got paid, obviously." I laughed. He continued, "I just wanted to know if you wanted me to take you out later, then?" It was very, very smooth. I was sort of taken aback, but of course, he was cute and I said, "Well, sure." He said, "All right. Well, you think about it, and if you give me your number, I'll give you a call at 6:15. Have a good rest of the day and don't work too hard." I gave him my number. I was sold. It was smooth as hell. What have you got to lose? Just use this guy's script. It was great. I told all the other tellers about it.
collegekid491 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 DO NOT slip her a note! My boyfriend used to be a banker/teller, and he'd tell you that she'll hit that Security button so fast that it'll make your head spin. Generally, a note handed to a teller, especially when seen on a security camera, is a signal that you're trying to rob the place. Awww.... why did you have to go and tell him, i wanted to see him get unsuspectedly tackled by 3 fat cops on the 6 o'clock news... well... i guess my evening is boring again lol Best thing to do, build a connection. Use humor or even just some 'friendly talk' to be a regular, friendly face. I'm afraid you will have to bite the bullet and just ask though, but don't stress over it just sorta throw the option out there, put the ball in her court. And the note, I mean, think about it, asking a girl out with a note in general is pretty... sad.
voldigicam Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 "May I ask you a non-business question?" Being very polite and very clear does wonders. I'm generally following that up with something different than asking someone out, but were I interested in doing that I wouldn't hesitate. Just that simple screening question seems to open doors. Or let you know they're closed.
flash582 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Do you have e-mail at home? When she says yes .... say cool .... what is it? She'll next ask, why do you want it. You say .... I'd like to get to know you better. The worst that can happen is we can be friends .... and I can always use more friends. If she blows you off then, well .... you didn't have a chance and you can walk away with your dignity intact .... cause you only asked for friendship. If she doesn't blow you off, While she's writing say .... go ahead and put down your phone number while your at it. When she asks why you want her number, be coy ..... like it's the silliest question on the planet. Don't call her that night .... but the next night. Good luck
Timmers Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Well it sounds like you've already built up a little thing with her. So now you can either continue your game with her, perhaps flirting a bit here and there... Or you can suck it up and ask her out. Ask when she takes her lunch or gets off work. If you want to get more of a feel for the situation you can start with harmless conversation, like "Do you work here full time?" and such.
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