JaqiNikki Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I have been married for 4 years with one child. My husband is an alcoholic and I am a stay at home mom. He is in the Military and has only been in our sons life for very short periods of time and our son barely knows him. That is one of the main reasons I stick around is so they can get to know each other. I don't know if I can take being around him any more though. I can no longer condone his drinking habit. I just don't know what to do and I don't have anyone to talk to about it yet. I am also currently stuck out of state for the next 5 months and have no way to leave. I guess this is more of a vent then anything. I don't really know what to ask yet since this is something I have only recently decided to do. Any recommendation on getting started? My son is my top priority. I want to make sure he is taken care of.
wowWTF Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I have been married for 4 years with one child. My husband is an alcoholic and I am a stay at home mom. He is in the Military and has only been in our sons life for very short periods of time and our son barely knows him. That is one of the main reasons I stick around is so they can get to know each other. I don't know if I can take being around him any more though. I can no longer condone his drinking habit. I just don't know what to do and I don't have anyone to talk to about it yet. I am also currently stuck out of state for the next 5 months and have no way to leave. I guess this is more of a vent then anything. I don't really know what to ask yet since this is something I have only recently decided to do. Any recommendation on getting started? My son is my top priority. I want to make sure he is taken care of. I am sorry you are going through this situation. Have you contacted your Obudsman or Family Support Group on base? He can be ordered by his CO to attend rehab. I have seen it happen. Of course rehab only works on someone who wants to get better, but at least it's an option. I would definitely look into your Family Support Group or Ombudsman. They have lots of experience in this sort of thing and of course, they are free and they can relate because they are military family members as well. Best of luck, I wish you the best.
Author JaqiNikki Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 I am sorry you are going through this situation. Have you contacted your Obudsman or Family Support Group on base? He can be ordered by his CO to attend rehab. I have seen it happen. Of course rehab only works on someone who wants to get better, but at least it's an option. I would definitely look into your Family Support Group or Ombudsman. They have lots of experience in this sort of thing and of course, they are free and they can relate because they are military family members as well. Best of luck, I wish you the best. I will have find the Obudsman and talk to them. Thanks! I am not interested in sticking around anymore I have tried enough and am worn out. He was hospitalized about 2 years ago because he had withdrawals while he was gone at a training. He was 27 at the time and told he had a 40 year olds liver. They forced him into asap and make him get tests or something for a while. He only attended one meeting and when he was done doing the tests, well the day of his last test he said yay I can start drinking again. He brought home a six pack that day. Now things are worse then ever. One day we went to church and it was a message about alcoholism. This happened to be the only day we went to church when he was on leave from Iraq. On the way home I said "Wow, that message was really for you" He proceeded to tell me to shut the f*** up and he would take care of it when he wanted to. He promised he would stop when he got back and that is not the case. He is not an angry drunk, just an annoying one. He is moody when he doesn't drink. I hear it can progressively get worse though. My main concern is that I keep full custody of our son because if I were to see things get worse I want to know that I can control the visitation. Not to be mean or anything, I want them to be able to see each other. But for his safety. He is still really young and my husband doesn't pay attention to anything when he drinks. He just plays xbox.
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