Mydish1 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 So anyway a couple of days ago I met this girl at friend's party. She had a little too much to drink (which explains how confident she was in showing interest in me and touching me/flirting). Though she did blurt out some things which are possible red flags: She dropped out of HS but has her GED She's going to college for the first time (she's in her late 20's) She's divorced Her parents are divorced Although even with the above, she seems like any other normal sane girl. So I just came back from having coffee with her. Apparently some stuff I spoke with her about at the bar, she didn't remember today (had a little too much to drink that night we met). The other night she was very touchy feely and sweet and fun to be around, today she was a total stiff and didn't say or show in anyway she was sexually interested in me. I guess I'm an idiot, both times (the other day and tonight) when I was sitting next to her I went in for a kiss..she didn't turn so I just kissed her cheek instead. But when I got up out of my seat to leave the train and give her a hug, it was a bit awkward and seemed like she wanted a kiss. I'm bad at gauging situations, either a girl is intimidated by me or maybe she's just not that into me. Right now, something really caught my attention. The other night when the liquor was wearing off, I was with her and she flirting and touching kinda stopped, though when we parted she said "call me". Which points to today, totally sober...and no touching and no flirting, nervous perhaps? Just sent a text that I had a good time, no reponse What do you guys think, is she interested? Intimidated? or not interested?
btc8 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Well, she was sober (purportedly) on your date at the coffee shop, so perhaps she didn't lead on that she totally forgot most things that happened while she was plastered, and she may actually remember how overtly sexual and flirty she was with you. She may be embarrassed about that. But the fact that she went out with you means that she's at least interested. Also, do you know if she can receive texts? If you don't hear from her, call her in like five days (like on the phone, no texts) and ask her out for a second date. If it goes to voicemail, then just leave a message asking her you'd like to go out again and to call you back. If you don't hear from her, then just forget it and count your blessings.
Author Mydish1 Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 Well, she was sober (purportedly) on your date at the coffee shop, so perhaps she didn't lead on that she totally forgot most things that happened while she was plastered, and she may actually remember how overtly sexual and flirty she was with you. She may be embarrassed about that. But the fact that she went out with you means that she's at least interested. Also, do you know if she can receive texts? If you don't hear from her, call her in like five days (like on the phone, no texts) and ask her out for a second date. If it goes to voicemail, then just leave a message asking her you'd like to go out again and to call you back. If you don't hear from her, then just forget it and count your blessings. I don't know if she's embarrassed, I don't know what she should be embarrassed about...as I love a woman that's confident around me and shows me that she's interested. But I think that's the problem I don't know how interested she is right now. It seems like she prefers to do texting over phone. When I had called, she didn't pick up and probably would have never called back...however when I texted her instead, she immediately responded and said yes to the coffee. I tend to notice a lot of women are shy and/or nervous around me.
btc8 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I don't know if she's embarrassed, I don't know what she should be embarrassed about...as I love a woman that's confident around me and shows me that she's interested. There's a big difference between confidence displayed when inebriated and confidence displayed when sober. I'm sure if you were drunk and started getting close and touchy with all kinds of people, and then had one of those people see you sober, you'd realize what a fool you made of yourself and show a little forthright introversion.
Author Mydish1 Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 There's a big difference between confidence displayed when inebriated and confidence displayed when sober. I'm sure if you were drunk and started getting close and touchy with all kinds of people, and then had one of those people see you sober, you'd realize what a fool you made of yourself and show a little forthright introversion. You make a good point. However that night she was just doing it with me and no one else...hence I don't think she made a fool of herself.
Star Gazer Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I'm bad at gauging situations, either a girl is intimidated by me or maybe she's just not that into me. Most people - women included - don't exist on one side of the continuum or the other. Perhaps she's just feeling you out? Must she be totally into you already? My guess is that she's trying to re-set the boundaries, trying to re-establish a first impression, as well as gain a new impression about you (because the one she remembers is foggy). Give her a call in a day or two. Her reaction at that point will be a better indicator.
Author Mydish1 Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 Most people - women included - don't exist on one side of the continuum or the other. Perhaps she's just feeling you out? Must she be totally into you already? My guess is that she's trying to re-set the boundaries, trying to re-establish a first impression, as well as gain a new impression about you (because the one she remembers is foggy). Give her a call in a day or two. Her reaction at that point will be a better indicator. I suppose you're right about the continuum thing. Gosh it's annoying sometimes with women. A lot of the ones I've dated in the past always had to give me a hard time, even the ones that were interested. Playing aloof or not picking up their phones, etc. I just wish I could meet someone confident enough to know what she wants without beating around the bush...and show it or say it/reciprocate it (while being sober).
btc8 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I suppose you're right about the continuum thing. Gosh it's annoying sometimes with women. A lot of the ones I've dated in the past always had to give me a hard time, even the ones that were interested. Playing aloof or not picking up their phones, etc. The dating/love is all a big game, and we all, men and women, play it like that.
era Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 The dating/love is all a big game, and we all, men and women, play it like that. lol ...Yeah, like a game, and a game that nobody bothered to tell you what the rules are.
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