trixy Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 My bf is depressed. Some times he is cheerful upbeat and positive, but othertimes like tonight he is moody, selfish and compketely insensitive to my feelings. we just had a conversation where is demanded that I tell him what it is that I want from him. Then we should compare lists and decide what we are going to do. I refused and ended our phone conversation, I don't like ending calls on a bad note but I don't have the energy to try to jolly him out of this bad mood. Last weekend he was talking about maybe moving in together, this week he is miserable and so therefore we are obviously not as compatable. I know he was tired and hungry, but really, why phone if that is how you feel. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with moody men? Is it so hard to be consistant? I am really, really fed up with constantly hearing him moody. Generally we have a wonderful relationship but on nights like tonight I can't help but question us as a couple.
flash582 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I recommend a couples therapist. Something's going on in him that you don't understand. If it's truly depression he needs professional help. NOW. I waited until I was in my late 30's to get treated and missed a lot of life because of it. If it's not depression then you two are not communicating well .... you can save the relationship now if you can learn to communicate well together. Otherwise it will be a rough way to go.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Does he have a history of clinical depression? If that is the case he either needs to take antidepressants or you need to reevaluate your position in this relationship. I know for a fact that any relationship with a depressed individual can be challenging and emotionally draining. It can build contempt between both parties because the relationship might appear lopsided as one is demanding over the other. You need to have a serious talk with him about what his options are in regards to his being and how he can actually change and contribute to the relationship because in all fairness, you're not being selfish. You do care about him enough to put up with his antics but sometimes you can't let his depression be an excuse for him to bully you around.
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