gavinus Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Hi all my ex dumped 8 weeks ago. We went out for 3 years, she had major anger problems, blamed them on me and dumped me. (NC for 3 weeks) I told me ex because I love her and want her to be happy I am letting her go. I have just listed my profile on a dating site, manly because I am lonely and it is great to chat to real live women online with no pressure to meet, date etc. I still love my ex. The other night I saw someone had looked at my profile with the same nickname, details etc as my ex. The thing is I now feel bad she may have seen my ad. My ad pretty much says I am keeping my options open (I had the choice to say friendship, love, online online only but I left it as keeping options open) and the things I am looking for in other person is somebody who appreciates being cared for. Do you think I should pull my ad? Or contact me ex? I don't want my ex to think she meant nothing to me or that what I said about loving her was untrue. I suppose I keep hoping she will come back and I don't want to blow my chances, thanks in advance for your help
huck Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Is the online dating helping you to get over your ex - is it taking your mind off her ?? If so - keep on doing it - dont delete your profile. Its been said millions of times to do something active after a split to keep your mind active - and this is stopping you being lonely + you get to chat to other girls .. win win situation... Shes probably just curious what your up to...
kizik Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 You really shouldn't be trying to date yet. You just said you still love your ex. Online dating sucks anyway, you're never going to meet anyone that way. But for now, you shouldn't be doing it anyway. Your ex is doing exactly what you are - trying to fill the void in yourself by finding another person. How about taking some time to figure out who you really are? Best of luck.
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