spotless Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 This is long but I really need some good advice. I recently found out my girlfriend of 2 years made out with a guy at a party when she was drunk. But she lied about it. Before this happen we had a great relationship and just spend valentines day weekend together. Here's the story. I am 20. She is 18. We go to different colleges. About four weeks ago she met a guy at a party on a Friday night and got drunk. She liked him and flirted with him and he liked her and flirted back. The next day she added him on facebook and he must have known she had a boyfriend. That afternoon she made plans to go out with her friends to another party when he would be there. She got really really drunk again and ended up making out with him. Keep in mind they both like each other and this is their second night together. She could have said no I shouldn't because I'm just asking for trouble. We don't talk until Monday night on the phone and she said we should break up because she's been having feelings about our relationship and she had a talk with one of her girlfriends about it. Break up? over the phone? So we break up and then on Friday that same week she says "Ok I liked a guy and he liked me BUT we did nothing. It just made me think about us". So we got back together. But I asked if there was more. She kept saying no. Then, 3 weeks later I asked her is there something more to our breakup, and she kept saying No No No believe me! Then she finally confessed to kissing him BUT only because he went in for it and pecked her on the lips. BUT thats it. and when he did, she said "woah this is too much". and left the party. (really really drunk i guess?) Then 2 days later, she says ok ok i made out with him. She says it was for 4 seconds, standing up, with other friends in the room or close by. I think it is more. They must have been alone since they liked each other. What kind of guy tries to get with a girl who HAS a boyfriend and HER FRIENDS are in the same room. Basically, she lied over and over to my face, over the phone, and through text messages until I basically dug it out of her. I think they had sex but I may be wrong. Keep in mind she was really really drunk and liked the guy. She says they were never alone. (by the way we have a really sexual relationship and i'm her second partner.) Should I believe her? Sorry if this is confusing, I am new to this. Thank You.
Excellent Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Being drunk is no excuse. Unless your girlfriend is unique when she's drunk, shes just like everybody when she does something stupid under the influence, meaning she knew what she was doing, but she just didn't give a damn. And the fact that she lied to you over and over again speaks for itself. I would dump her on the spot and go NC forever. She has broken your trust, and cheating is the ultimate trust-breaker for for me. You deserve better.
Author spotless Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 I know she made out but I'm worried it was sex ... she was really really drunk
huck Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Yep - no excuse what so ever. Even when im smashed i wouldnt even consider cheating on a partner. If i love someone I can forgive pretty much anything in a relationship apart from violence or cheating Whats stopping her doing it again ??.. get rid & good luck !!!!
messed-mind Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I am 20. She is 18. We go to different colleges. Doomed relationship. She cheats, she lies to your face, you mean virtually nothing to her and she certainly does not love you in the slightest. You certainly shouldn't believe a god damn word that comes out her mouth. Remember, this is only stuff you've "found out", just think of the rest of the stuff you're not finding out. Break up with her, go no contact, have time to heal and enjoy your life. If you get back with her, I swear on my own life that it'll be a) worse b) more painful c) you'll get cheated on again. Don't let yourself be dragged across the broken glass again by this cheating whore.
Donovan Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 something tells me she 1. did more than just make out with him and 2. has been doing this on the regular. i think she had already committed to him but wasn't sure and wanted to see if it was going in her direction before she told you about breaking it off. be glad she didn't lead u on for another year or so. she'll definately get hers. it's college, she'll cheat on him again or he'll cheat on her. regardless, one day she'll meet someone she really likes and the same will happen to her. that thing we call karma is real. she's an 18 year old college chick that gets drunk and uses it as an excuse for her lust. i know you can do better than that bro
AMM003 Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 I agree with the other posters. I might also add that she has probably been giving you "half truths" and lying by omission. A classic cheater. Time to cut your losses while you can. It might hurt now but nothing compared to what you will feel if you keep hanging on. good luck, I feel for ya man.
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