missdependant Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Also there's nothing wrong with what you do.. it's a personal choice, and it's no worse than having a couple glasses of wine. I lie in a really liberal state, so maybe I'm just really laid back on the matter.. Just be open and honest.. tell them that not ALL drugs are bad, but not all are good either.. include prescriptions medications and alcohol in the matter as these are two things that seem to be overlooked when the topic comes up. You don't have to tell them that you're a user, but you CAN tell them that it's a personal choice. You can also tell them that drugs ARE bad for them.. because they are still just kids.
whichwayisup Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 just like I aint uptight about driving over the speed limit..... Love ya Thumbs, you know that..But you SHOULD be uptight about driving over the speed limit. When you lose someone you love to car crash, it changes your outlook. Hope your talk with your kids have gone well..
sb129 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Don't be so sure:Technically, the sale of cannabis remains an offence in Holland, and dealing in the streets remains illegal. Even so, possession of less than 30 grams for personal use carries only a minor punishment, and coffee shops are restricted to flogging no more than five grams per person.. Contradictory post- the sale of cannabis IS legal in Holland, its regulated, as you said. But you said the sale was illegal. Not sure where you are getting your facts from. I have bought and smoked pot legally in Amsterdam. Thumbing- my H and I are going to be in the same dilemma in about 10 years time. My dad was a pot smoker most of his life- I knew about it from probably age 18 onwards. I don't think it made him less of a father- I turned out OK, have a professional degree and a good job and all that jazz. I have a very relaxed attitude towards drugs- I can take them or leave them, I have tried most things, like some, don't like others. I don't judge anyone who does them. Because it wasn't such a big deal when I was growing up, I think the whole "illicitness" thing was missing, and I wasn't in such a hurry to do anything and everything I could that was illegal. I can't even remember my parents even talking to me about drugs being bad, I think they just told me to be careful. I honestly can't remember. Everything was pretty much out in the open, I didn't do much behind their backs- we have always had a very open and trusting relationship as a result.
missdependant Posted May 25, 2009 Posted May 25, 2009 Contradictory post- the sale of cannabis IS legal in Holland, its regulated, as you said. But you said the sale was illegal. Not sure where you are getting your facts from... They've recently started cracking down on it big time. Their government doesn't like that one of the main attractions for tourists is the fact that you can smoke in Amsterdam without everyone lifting an eyebrow.
sb129 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Weird- it must bring in a huge amount of revenue for them. Strange that they have decided to clean up their act now.....?
missdependant Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Weird- it must bring in a huge amount of revenue for them. Strange that they have decided to clean up their act now.....? Everyone is still stuck in the 1930s! Hello, Reefer Madness!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 So I am asking any other parents WHO smoke pot, what did you say to your kids about it? Basically the same thing my dad said to me. He smoked pot when I was growing up (hippie Deadhead dad), and his advice was: there is a time and a place for everything. Being high in public, or doing something that might result in the injury of another person is not the time or the place. Best thing? You sit at home and listen to music or something like that. Do things around the house. Mellow out. Never take anything that doesn't grow directly out of the ground - no chemicals. None. He said that if I ever decided to do it myself, that the most important thing is discretion because you can get in trouble for having it. I didn't start smoking it until I was in my mid twenties, then stopped when my daughter was born and just recently started again. It is something I enjoy. I vaporize rather than smoke when I can because of the carcinogens. I don't do chemical drugs of any kind. Never wanted to because of how horrible my dad told me they could be. My xH and I gave her the drug talk years ago and we basically told her that pot is a plant, no more - no less. We let her know it is illegal, and told her why it is illegal. We told her the effects and the dangers (smoking anything can trigger lung cancer). We gave the talk straight up, the same way we did with the religion talk. She will not see pot smoking as a 'taboo' thing, and as a result will likely not be too interested in smoking it when she is young. When I was young, pot smoking was just something my dad did - and therefore not of much interest to me. We also told her about the addictive and dangerous nature of manufactured drugs. She is as horrified about them as I was at her age. If she decides to smoke it one day, then we'll show her the safest way to do so - but hopefully by that time it will be legal. I guess our parenting style is: give the facts, give our opinions, and let her ask questions and discover her own path with mom and dad watching over her.
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