drummerprince81 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 If you let your ex get off the hook by treating you like garbage in the post-break-up stage, what is the best way of telling them or is it best just letting it be? I want to send a letter, but its been 4 weeks since its been over now, and 3 weeks since she made an effort to contact me. I intend to tell her that it is wrong to treat people like this, as if I never existed, and not even ending the relationship properly. I guess so when it happens to her one day she will know what I went through. I know its over, but judging by other posts everybody seems to get a few modes of contact from the ex. I've had nothing, and did barely anything wrong. She ended the relationship due to some problems in her own self. I feel like it will give me closure and I can then move onto NC indefinitely. I just think I made it to easy for her by not getting in touch myself...
chrissreef Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 yea, I was too nice too. I'm going to wait for everything to settle for a LONG time until emotions are basically gone. I know she'll want to make amends at some point so maybe then. In a sick way I kind of hope she gets hurt the same way (karma) and comes running back.
kizik Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 You can go ahead and send that sob story letter, but I can guarantee you that she could care less. IF she even reads it.
chrissreef Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 kizik is right, and it won't make you sound like the better person. write it and put it away or post it on these boards. I sent letters, never got a reply... mine said she read them but who knows as some were pretty long =/
sockpuppet Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Yea, don't send it. I went through the same thing years ago, and no matter how you want it to come across, it never accomplishes what you want it to. Especially post-breakup, I've noticed people are extremely defensive and overly sensitive to criticism, maybe because they're guilty, or maybe they're just emotionally fried.
Author drummerprince81 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Thanks guys for the advice. I think the only thing I'd accomplish is that I will hopefully make her feel guilty but emotions are probably too high at the moment and it could make her ending up hating me. However, I still made it easy for her and I'm really pissed off about this...its like she is getting away with it all and can live happily ever after. There are far too many options but far fewer opportunities.
kizik Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Soon you won't care if she hates you. In fact, soon you'll hate her. It's all part of the journey, man...
chrissreef Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 "she is getting away with it all and can live happily ever after" yup... that's what happens to good guys. we try to continue to be gentleman thinking it will help keep her and the women just eat up our foolishness.
EmperorR Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 I was to nice, heck my ex cheated and left me for someone else, and I was sitll the same old nice person never arguring or bringing it up pathetic. Then when i got really angry I would write long emails but never send them luckily I didn't.
imu2 Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 i hope this isnt just an attempt to have contact with her.. if so just careful of your open wound.
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