Am I the bad guy here? Or does she get what she deserves?

[Not the love ace]

Well, I am sure some of you have read my post about my ex-girlfriend.

 

Well two days ago a little drama occurred and now her family hates my guts and I believe she is just playing the victim.

 

To make a long story short, she basically played me and was actually going out with another guy in her college (lets call him Ben) since November of 2008 and lied to both me and Ben. She told Ben she wasn't going out with me because I vanished from her life, and told me she hated Ben but they just became good friends and have no feelings for each other and that she hates him kind of.

 

I broke up with her in the end of January, and I thought she only started dating him two weeks after but it was way before that and I never knew.

 

Basically, I was talking to one of his good friends whom I am also friends with, and we spoke about the subject of Ben and my ex going out. We were talking about it and I found out that this guy named Jake was friends with Ben. I told my friend that Jake is now going out with my ex and my friend got really pissed because her and Ben are really close friends.

 

Ben wasn't aware that my ex had messed around and eventually went out with Jake behinds Ben back and eventually broke up with Ben because she claimed that they had nothing in common.

 

Ben had a suspicion that she had a new boyfriend and people denied any such thing (behind Bens back). She also lied straight in his face and told him she wouldn't do something like that.

 

I felt bad and I had to tell me friend (Amy) that Jake and my ex were going out, and of course she eventually told Ben since she's best friends and didn't want him to be hurt.

 

Of course Ben gets irate and flips out on my ex and is now highly upset with Jake because they both played him behind his back and the fact Ben and Jake used to be pretty good friends.

 

Ben is popular at his college and my ex made plenty of friends solely because of him and now Ben and all his friends want nothing to do with her because what she did. Even some friends outside of the college are pissed at what they both did to Ben and how they both fooled around behind his back and some of them also aren't speaking to them both.

 

So now a lot of people really don't like my ex and some people she works with (from what I know) thought it was messed up what she did as well.

 

My ex found out that I pretty much linked the information and was pissed at me. I don't know what made me feel compelled to call her, but I did just to tell her why I did what I did. When the phone picked up, her brother got tough with me and pretty much cursed me out over the phone and told me his sister is upset because of what happened.

 

So now her family hates me for HER stupid mistakes and thinks I made her miserable. Only if they knew the whole story.

 

I wasn't vindictive or looking for pay back, but when I heard what happened I thought it was really wrong and told my friend because I felt guilty if I would have kept my mouth close. Plus, she played me and him so I guess this is a lesson learned for her.

 

A part of me feels like a gossiper, but a part of me also feels like this is what she gets for messing around on people and lying straight to their face. I actually left things alone and was moving on from my ex, but when I heard this I thought it was only fitting to say something.

 

My intentions were never to do this, but I couldn't help but be annoyed she kept lying and messing with peoples feelings. I just thought it was really messed up how she messed around and eventually went out with Jake while going out with Ben behind his back. It was also more lame that she only known Jake (for at least a week and a few days) before she went out with him behind Bens back.

 

I told her if she keeps doing stuff like that it can come back and bite her in the ass.

 

What are your thoughts thoughts?

[Island Girl]

This got too hard to follow 2/3 of the way in.

 

It doesn't matter though the advice is still the same.

 

She is your ex and it sounds like she is a completely sucky person.

 

You did what you thought was best in exposing her.

 

At least you allowed people to be aware of the truth.

 

As far as her family goes it is their daughter, sister, etc. so their allegiance is going to be to her.

It is HER family so you really shouldn't give a crap about what they think.

 

Be glad you are done and now move on and be done with the drama.

[Not the love ace]

This got too hard to follow 2/3 of the way in.

 

It doesn't matter though the advice is still the same.

 

She is your ex and it sounds like she is a completely sucky person.

 

You did what you thought was best in exposing her.

 

At least you allowed people to be aware of the truth.

 

As far as her family goes it is their daughter, sister, etc. so their allegiance is going to be to her.

It is HER family so you really shouldn't give a crap about what they think.

 

Be glad you are done and now move on and be done with the drama.

 

Yeah, I tried not to make it too complicated but there was a lot of he said she said stuff. I apologize for any confusion.

 

In the end, I am definitely happy she got exposed and that people are aware. I am finally happy to close the chapter and move on.