uacook Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 What do you do when you have huge problems between your spouse and a child who is and adult (26). My child just had moved back home and is currently looking for a job. He has gotten out of the military and thought that he was mr. know it all for 2 months. My family moved into a bigger living space and things are tight so my child could have a place to live . well it is constant battles with my husband for him to find a job which he is and now ww3 erupted and my son packed some of his things and says he will live in a homeless shelter. I am on my wits end someone please help me with suggestions
Athena Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 Take care not to 'triangulate' their relationship, because then they will 'conveniently' never learn to get along directly one-on-one with each other if they know they can get you to dive in between them while they take shots at each other and hide behind you. Tell them you are disappointed in their lack of effective communicating and while you love them both you will not referee them. Express your direct wish that you want your son at home until he has his financial situation stabilized, and give him some sort of time frame to so this (?1 year?) Once both H and son hear your wishes, bow out of their relationship and LET them handle each other.
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