ann1921 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 ok my ex broke up with about a month and 3 weeks ago almost 2 months. His reasoning was, he said he didn't love me anymore and he felt like this for a couple of months but, he treated me the same and told me he still loved me. I don't understand how we can date for 3 years and all of a sudden he doesn't love me anymore? a couple of weeks b4 he dumped me he was drinkin a little more but other then that he still treated me the same. He is now all of a sudden calling me its like he has to have an excuse to call me to see how i am. He works out of town alot. I was his first gf. I think he just wanted to be single. Will it be possible that we get back together? He told me that when we were dating that he wanted to marry me. I think he still feels something for me if he is calling and when he calls me he flirts and makes me laugh and tells me he misses me.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 maybe he just felt suffocated or something like maybe he needed some space...if hes still calling you to see how you are and what your doing thats a good sign.....if he didnt care he wouldn't bother.
bkaz01 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 my ex was doing that nad just stopped for no reason any idea why she changed her number in dec but called almost every day since new years she said i did nothin wrong and just turned?
squirtle Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 maybe he felt like he needed a break..being with someone for a long period of time..sometimes you begin to wonder what life would be like without that person. its not that you dont love them... its just a need to feed your curiosity. give him time to figure it out...but dont sit around and wait for him . get out and enjoy yourself. if it is meant to be.. it will be. he IS calling you so maybe he's realizing his mistake?? like another poster said,, maybe he was feeling suffocated.
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nycmikey Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 He probabaly does still care for u if he is calling,he could also be checking up on u to see if your out,or just sitting at home.Maybe a good idea to not answer all the time and get his wheels spinning,so he can ponder wat u are up to.I think if u do get back together don't seem desperate and just see what happens,I have been in this situation many times and I know its tough.The one thing I can tell u for sure is don't make a habit of this because it will be a never ending rollercoster,I'm sure u have thought about things go with your gut if it is repairable
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I think that the NC rule should continue on because it sounds to me a bit confusing...meaning that he doesn't want to be with you, but he misses you, flirts with you, etc. It's like an emotional rollercoaster and you don't need that. You said he works out of town a lot....do you think he is with other girls or do you think because you are his first girlfriend that he is for whatever reason wanting to soak his oats around town before really committing (even though you both committed 3 years with one another)?
Author ann1921 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 no i don't think he is with other girls bc i know him and he isn't social enough to even talk to other girls. When it came to him asking me out i had to tell him i liked him! He is one of those guys that works all the time. I don't know if he wanted to soak his oats around town b4 commiting. That might be very true. I think the main thing is he is confused and he doesn't know what he wants right now!
Author ann1921 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 squirtle, i have a question for you, what did you mean by this sentence "its not that you dont love them... its just a need to feed your curiosity."
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