nycmikey Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Hows it going i am 32 yrs old going on 33,i have been in a relationship for 6 yrs going on 7 and I lived with her for 3 yrs total,I love this girl to death,but in the last yr have had serious problems with her.We broke up as many as 5 or 6 times and I kicked her out once because she stole money from me and then lied about it,but from what I know she has never cheated and I know she has a good heart,dosent go out much.The breakups have always passed and we got back together.She moved out a second time in Jan. and we got back together in Feb. well this time we got back I really tried to make a change,showed her affection,told her i care about her,took her out,basically tried to be the best guy I could,she told me last time we broke up she was devastated and very depressed and couldnt get the energy to do anything so I was thinking maybe it wasnt all me and I know she does have a problem with depression.Well I got her on Prozac to try to help her and before it should of even taken affect we got in a very minor argument and she said,she cant talk and would call me back well that was March 4th and I still have not seen,talked,or heard from her since then,I dont know where her new apt. is.My question is what do u think happened,did she loose feelings or is the Prozac helping her deal with this,I am devastated by this and called her friend because her phone was turned off obviously she dosent want to contact me,so i havent tried to contact her,I was planning on working things out with her to try to get things the way they were and proposing this yr and then having kids.How can someone just fall off the face of the earth after 6 yrs,and one more thing she has alot of important things left here,her mothers wedding ring and jewlery so i dont know if she is using that to keep the door open,Any advice or just your opinions would be very helpful to me,I do really love her but I feel maybe she lost feelings for me,but how could she of been so devastated last time we broke up Please Help.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 im sorry your going through this right now, it might have something to do with the depression as well. Maybe she was tired of all the fighting and the up and down roller coster that relationships go through...sometimes people suffering from depression cant deal with all that stuff. Depression is very hard for relationships, i know my bf and i have both been through that at different times and it was very hard to overcome. So you have no cell phone # for her? i know u said you dont know wheres she lives at now but doesn't she have a cell?
Author nycmikey Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 When i called it was actually turned off,she is terrible with money and that was what alot of fights were about.So i am pretty sure she dosent have the money to pay it,She could call me from her work though,and one other thing the first 3 days we got back together things were great and then this change,I just dont know i also found her on facebook,I never knew she had an account on there and her friends are blocked,so I cant see who she is talking to,raise any red flags u think?
bkaz01 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 sounds like my ex she was on prozac when we first started datin and it was awesome (i never knew til months later) when i found out i wanted to leave but i was fallin for her ikeep tryin to go back to that time but its not possible cause she ws medicated she is up and down allthe time with me as well read some of my posts...changing her number not talkin for days and days then callin again its not worth it get away im tryin to do the same
squirtle Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 my boyfriend and i both suffer from depression. it definitely complicates a relationship... lots of ups and downs! Depression is a strong force..it can suck the life right out of a person. maybe she is trying to deal with that by itself right now (since she is taking medication) like someone else said, depression is a rollercoaster and at times it IS very hard to deal with relationship stress and depression at the same time. i wish both of you the best that you will be able to heal and be happy.
Author nycmikey Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 thanks for the advice..001% better today so that is a start i guess
Author nycmikey Posted March 28, 2009 Author Posted March 28, 2009 its been a while since a posted this,and this really suck,anyway if anyone has advice on the things left over here,and yesterday i found out she hasnt changed her address,if someone can tell me how u feel on prozac? does it make u loose feelings,or not feel at all.Any advice on this would be helpful.still staying strong for now,do u think that is the reason shes not calling because she can cope with it easier now?
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