Kamille Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I think you'd run into a situation where if you're strapped for cash, you're probably never going to suggest doing anything. Heaven forbid you're both strapped- no activities outside of watching basic cable at home (since you've probably cut premium cable and can't spring for dvds). That would lead to a pretty boring relationship. LOL! I'm a student and he was paying off student loan and yet we still managed to treat each other quite regularly. Honestly, I thought it helped keep the relationship romantic in that we were always taking each other out. It meant neither one of us felt the other was taking advantage of the other. I hope it works for you as well as it worked for us Redant. Also, if you want him to treat you to something extra-special once in awhile, there's no shame in asking to be treated like a lady.
St. Nick Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Man, I read the original post wrong. Here's a suggestion. Stop going out to dinner. Try doing things that aren't expensive. There are ways to be romantic without doing the whole traditional dinner and a movie thing.
MindoverMatter Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 redant: how many months did the guy pay for you on every date? How were you helping him then?
loveslife Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I think the point is she wants him to spend money on her. Personally, I prefer eating in. And with the right someone it can be a lot more intimate and fun than eating out.
manugeorge Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I think you'd run into a situation where if you're strapped for cash, you're probably never going to suggest doing anything. Heaven forbid you're both strapped- no activities outside of watching basic cable at home (since you've probably cut premium cable and can't spring for dvds). That would lead to a pretty boring relationship. On the contrary, being broke encourages you to be creative. You'd be suprised at how many activities are out there that you can engage in with little or no money. You just have to learn to be resourceful is all and actually employ your imagination to come up with interesting things to do. Most people though don't really want to be bothered by all that. Dinner and a movie, that's about it.
Author redant Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Hmm Manu that does sound fun. Let's hope he feels the same. I'm creative so I can think of things.
Kamille Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 How does "being treated like a lady" equate with the guy doing all the spending? How does he get treated? Shouldn't a guy who is expected to treat a gal to "something extra-special once in awhile" also be able to expect the same in return? You got me DM! I am a traditionnalist disguised in a feminist's clothes. I love to be taken out on a date (for which I will pirmp and dress up), where he will open doors, pull the chairs and pick up the bill. Love it. And it's been my experience that man love doing it too. And yes, the man definitely deserves to be treated to something extra special MORE then once in awhile! The point I was trying to make is that there are solutions to the kind of dilemma that Redant is facing and that each partner should feel free to communicate their needs in a playful way.
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