br0ken_w0lf Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Short story: in August 2007, my wife indicated she "needed" space, shortly followed by her desire to separate, shortly followed by her desire for a divorce. The whole thing was long and drawn out. I begged, pleaded for her to come back. I later found out she had "reconnected" with an old friend of hers and now had feelings for him. She moved out in December 2007 to live with this guy (!). I will say that this has been the absolute hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life so far. I think, even recently, I'd hoped she might come back at some point. And I've emotional ups and downs since August 2007. And then... My lawyer e-mailed me on Friday indicating that the divorce (which I'd filed for) was final and the certificate would be in the mail that day. On Monday, sure enough, it arrived. And suddenly, I just.... felt better. Like a weight had been lifted off of me. Like I was ready to start living again! I think the lack of legal closure kept me on the hook emotionally (by my own doing). So to all the guys out there who've been left (and, sadly, I've read of quite a few lately), things will get better. And this is coming from someone who NEVER thought things would get better. And you will have learned a LOT in the end. Keep your chin up and head on straight!
Shin0bi1 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Short story: in August 2007, my wife indicated she "needed" space, shortly followed by her desire to separate, shortly followed by her desire for a divorce. The whole thing was long and drawn out. I begged, pleaded for her to come back. I later found out she had "reconnected" with an old friend of hers and now had feelings for him. She moved out in December 2007 to live with this guy (!). I will say that this has been the absolute hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life so far. I think, even recently, I'd hoped she might come back at some point. And I've emotional ups and downs since August 2007. And then... My lawyer e-mailed me on Friday indicating that the divorce (which I'd filed for) was final and the certificate would be in the mail that day. On Monday, sure enough, it arrived. And suddenly, I just.... felt better. Like a weight had been lifted off of me. Like I was ready to start living again! I think the lack of legal closure kept me on the hook emotionally (by my own doing). So to all the guys out there who've been left (and, sadly, I've read of quite a few lately), things will get better. And this is coming from someone who NEVER thought things would get better. And you will have learned a LOT in the end. Keep your chin up and head on straight! I feel ya! I just got my divorced done and I feel...how should I say it... F'n free and ready to start life again. I did so much partying with my homies that I realize I am not that young and recovery time + hang overs were a lot longer than I remembered! lol Yeah ditch emotional baggages in the past. Take the good and leave the crap behind. Free of the mind, spirit, and soul will lead to a happy life. It seems when one starts to cling unto things even against better judgement...that is when the suffering happens. -Shin0bi1
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 It feels good dont it!?!? The best thing to realize is that if your wives or girlfriends leave you, take note your life isnt over, your still young you can still move on and have fun, life is too short to be stuck on one woman who gives you pain and treats you like crap! I was pissed when my ex cheated but i am definitely in a better place for a better relationship...
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