jennifer4 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Well my bf of 3 yrs and I live together and have for 2 yrs. I have 4 kids. He is currently unemployed and has been for 3+ months. He text me today saying how it's sad we don't kiss and have great sex anymore. Yes, it's been awhile, we've never really been much into kissing, I like to but not sure why it doesn't happen much. I think we may break up over not just this but it also seems like we aren't as close as we used to be. He helps out with the kids, cooks meals and in general is a big help, I wish we could be closer, but it is a chore to get him to talk and we act more like roommates now. Anyone else in this type of situation. thanks
Flying Burrito Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Do you want this man in your life because he's a good, loving man or because he's a good housekeeper? Asking you seriously because I can't tell.
Author jennifer4 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 He's not a housekeeper, he helps me out with things and I pay the bills for now. I want us to talk and get along like we used to, not sure if it's too late for that tho.
BCCA Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 He's not a housekeeper, he helps me out with things and I pay the bills for now. I want us to talk and get along like we used to, not sure if it's too late for that tho. Let me guess, back when you were talking and getting along, you were also have a lot more sex, correct? Its no coincidence. Men like sex, and I understand that maybe you just arent feeling it, but unless you do, he isnt going to be feeling anything you want him to do, either. I've been that guy, and he probably feels like 'give and take' isnt happening here. Find out, really ask yourself, why you arent sleeping with him anymore. 'I just dont know' is not an answer, and as someone who heard it WAY too many times in his shoes, its not acceptable. Im not saying he is perfect, but if youre a woman and your relationship seems to be fading/not as good as it was, ask yourself whats happened to your sex life. If its lacking, so will your man's interest and effort.
Flying Burrito Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Jennifer, you're in the power seat on this one. There are some things a man needs to feel like a man. Pleasing his partner sexually is one of those things. There is also the usual self-pleasing goodness. I would be surprised if its very different for women. Sounds to me like he wants some grabbing of the booty and snuggling of the bosoms. Is that so wrong?
Flying Burrito Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Just read BCCA's bit. He said it all much better.
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