Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I effed up the headline.... There is a marketing rep for a company that we don't do business with anymore, but the first time he came by trying to solicit my boss I felt something was there. My boss introduced us and the guy was staring into my eyes, but I got nervous and looked away. Anyway he helped me tie up some loose ends on and old case and was really sweet and helpful. I didn't think much of it because I was in a relationship and thought I might be making too much of it. A couple of month's have passed and I am single. He came by my office when I wasn't there and my boss talked to him and pretty much told him that we didn't have any business for him, but the next day he called me to set up a meeting to go over their product. I emailed him that we didn't have any biz..... but he persisted that he just wanted to go over the product and promised it would not be a waste of time.....So he is coming in tomorrow.... I feel lame because he is a sales guy doing what sales guys do but I think there is something there. Please give me some perspective on this!
Author Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Perhaps this is only my wishful thinking......I wish I could get some advice:(
shockandawed Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 As a sales rep, I can assure you I would be flattered if someone expressed interest in me. It seems a little odd that after your boss and you have told him there is no business, he still wants to come by. Yes, he could just be doing his job, but I have to think there may me more to it. Wear something nice tomorrow. By all means, engage him in small talk and try to learn as much about him as you can. Remember, he may be a little slow as he doesn't want to jeopardize any potential business by making a move and getting shot down. If you learn he is single and available, then I would suggest you asking him if he would like to meet for coffee or a drink.
Author Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Thanks for responding! I'm a nervous wreck over this because I am very newly single and really shy. Thanks for the advice.... I don't know if I can ask him out though....should I just ask if he's single? Any more tips?
shockandawed Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 First of all, just be yourself. Keep in mind, he may not even be on the market, you really don't know. If you are uncomfortable asking him out, then just engage him in small talk and fact finding. You can find out pretty quickly without being direct or obvious. "So Mr Rep, how long have you been with X Company?" "Do you like it?" "Do you have to travel alot?" By asking innocent questions, I am certain you will learn pretty quickly what his situation is. If you learn he is single..you can always play the "hard to believe a nice looking guy like you is single" card and then just give him a wry smile.
Author Rose81 Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Wishful thinking it is. He's married. I'm glad this happened though because I was totally overreacting.
shockandawed Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Sorry Rose! Look on the bright side, you said you are newly single. It appears you are ready to move on now. I guess the big question is did you buy anything?
Author Rose81 Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 I don't think I need what he's selling
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