AnthonyF Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I found this site reading an article on sexless marriages where Loveshack was noted. I expected to read a lot of "woe is me" posts, and many new posters are just that. Regulars however seem to be having a lot of sex, long and drawn out, and certainly experimenting an awful lot. I am mid 40's and all my friends (small group) are pretty closed lipped about sex, though we intimate. Two are into the fetish scene, one more voyeuristic (met his partner there, 2 kids), one divorced and certainly involved. All of us are decent looking (putting on less then 10%-15% weight since teens), semi (or better) successful. One friend would send his spouse home and rather stay out after a fun evening with friends, then go home and have sex. Another now separated intimated at the lack of sex in his marriage, and now has a younger girlfriend, but I don't think is going like a rabbit. The one in the fetish scene, does not live with his girlfriend, has a fair bit of sex we imagine, but not the daily+ I read here. My spouse claims no one she knows has too much except sorry to say the less attractive ones. So what's going on here, is this site atypical or are my friends and circle of people I know? We all make allusions that we are not getting enough.
Lizzie60 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I don't know about sex for all regulars.. all I know is that some people are sooo transparent.. when they say they are with the perfect partner.. they've never been cheated.. would never cheat themselves.. that their life is perfect.. blablabla... it's sooo obvious that it's fake.. they wouldn't spend so much time here if that was the case.. plus methink a lot of the 'regulars' who are supposedly in a happy relationship are 'cybercheating' here.. on LS... yes my friend.. I know that for sure.. I even have a few names.. Others are just inventing a 'perfect' life with a perfect 'fiancé' heading for the 'perfect' wedding.. Other 'regulars' are here because it's just a nice past-time.. in between lovers..
Citizen Erased Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Indeed, it is rather transparent when posters constantly post about a 'wonderful' aspect of their life every chance they get. I can only wonder why they even bother, really. As for the OP, always take those numbers people post with a grain of salt.
Trialbyfire Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I would take any and all "advices" given with a grain of salt. Keep in mind that only you know what works in real life, within the dynamics of your marriage. People can't read your mind.
quankanne Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 the older I get, the more I'm convinced that people of a certain age are lying when they suggest they have active sex lives. Because the truth of it is, unless you've got a large variety to choose from at any given time, sex ain't happening, thanks to the aging process. go look up the lyrics to Pete Townshend's "Slit Skirts" ... good song, but it hits home when it talks about mature "love" lives. People get old tired and boring, and they just stop trying.
Lizzie60 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 the older I get, the more I'm convinced that people of a certain age are lying when they suggest they have active sex lives. Because the truth of it is, unless you've got a large variety to choose from at any given time, sex ain't happening, thanks to the aging process. go look up the lyrics to Pete Townshend's "Slit Skirts" ... good song, but it hits home when it talks about mature "love" lives. People get old tired and boring, and they just stop trying. I completely agree.. when people have been with the same partner for ages.. it does get boring... and they just stop trying.. then when they get a new partner.. they are all 'energized' again.. I know.. it happened to me.. that's why I will never 'settle' with someone on a long term basis.. or even with only one partner.. it's just tooo boring... btdt.
Author AnthonyF Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 Forgot one.... Business friend, went through a terrible divorce, had an unhappy marriage. Told me he was no sex the last 5 yars. Once single met three women (third he has been with 7 years) and yes he had and learned a whole lot about sex (starting in his 40's)..... So by my count that means about 12% getting an awful lot..... The post was meant tongue in cheek, though the stories and my circle of friends I certainly gave an honest accounting of.... Interesting fact is I don't think any one of my friends have cheated (maybe a one night stand, but not a single affair).....
Trialbyfire Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Interesting fact is I don't think any one of my friends have cheated (maybe a one night stand, but not a single affair).....But..but...according to certain members, 99% of men cheat. They also all sleep with hookers on a regular basis. Is this true?
Citizen Erased Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 But..but...according to certain members, 99% of men cheat. They also all sleep with hookers on a regular basis. Is this true? Guess you'd have to sleep with the 99% of the male population to find out. Only way someone could possibly come up with such...
Trialbyfire Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Guess you'd have to sleep with the 99% of the male population to find out. Only way someone could possibly come up with such...That would be like over 3 billion men. Your Vjayjay must be tough as old leather!
clv0116 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Well I went through a long dry spell a few years back, but my career is on track and I'm getting plenty now. But I have a pretty high drive, so I could stand more, but come on, that's what retirement is for, right?
Citizen Erased Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 That would be like over 3 billion men. Your Vjayjay must be tough as old leather! I wonder how many men that would equal in one day... I doubt it would count as sex after awhile.
Art_Critic Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 half the regulars aren't even in relationships.. unless they have cut a hole in their mattress I seriously doubt they are oversexed...
Citizen Erased Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 half the regulars aren't even in relationships.. unless they have cut a hole in their mattress I seriously doubt they are oversexed... Watch out for the springs!
Trialbyfire Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I wonder how many men that would equal in one day... This is the exact wrong question to ask the exact wrong person! So here goes. Based on if one started this process the day one is born, the following are the number of men you would have to sleep with per day, including leap years, calculated at 99%, assuming that the male population is approx. 50% of the entire population: Age 20: 457,776 Age 25: 366,231 Age 30: 305,198 Age 35: 261,602 Age 40: 228,888 Age 45: 203,459 Age 50: 183,116 Age 55: 166,470 What are the possibilities that experience proves accuracy to that unsubstantiated 99%?
Mr. Lucky Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I found this site reading an article on sexless marriages where Loveshack was noted. I expected to read a lot of "woe is me" posts, and many new posters are just that. Regulars however seem to be having a lot of sex, long and drawn out, and certainly experimenting an awful lot. My wife and I have sex an average of 2X a week, probably near average for our age and marital duration. I don't see a high percentage of regulars claiming higher than average numbers unless you're reading different posts and threads than I am... Mr. Lucky
Citizen Erased Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 This is the exact wrong question to ask the exact wrong person! So here goes. Based on if one started this process the day one is born, the following are the number of men you would have to sleep with per day, including leap years, calculated at 99%, assuming that the male population is approx. 50% of the entire population: Age 20: 457,776 Age 25: 366,231 Age 30: 305,198 Age 35: 261,602 Age 40: 228,888 Age 45: 203,459 Age 50: 183,116 Age 55: 166,470 What are the possibilities that experience proves accuracy to that unsubstantiated 99%? ha ha I knew someone would do this! Holy...wow. Any other ladies cross their legs at the thought of that? I doubt sleeping with a few hundred cheating a-holes gives some certain people the ability to state anything as fact based on said few hundred cheating a-holes. But someone with your numbers on the other hand...
Trialbyfire Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 ha ha I knew someone would do this! Holy...wow. Any other ladies cross their legs at the thought of that? I doubt sleeping with a few hundred cheating a-holes gives some certain people the ability to state anything as fact based on said few hundred cheating a-holes. But someone with your numbers on the other hand... Yes, I'm sitting here with my legs crossed. If I were a man, my balls would have crawled back into my body!
Athena Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 Only reason I am here on LS posting is because H is away on business!!! ha ha and yes, when he's home, we are both equally sexed.... is several times a week oversexed?!
Author AnthonyF Posted March 26, 2009 Author Posted March 26, 2009 My wife and I have sex an average of 2X a week, probably near average for our age and marital duration. I don't see a high percentage of regulars claiming higher than average numbers unless you're reading different posts and threads than I am... Mr. Lucky Here's a few threads. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t183672/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t183424/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t181617/ Heroic & Boldjack wowed me with their #'s in the first one.... Also I asked when I found the site about average, hoping to see 2-3/wk (I wish) and many thought that seemed low.
Heroic Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 Raises hand.....Oversexed here! We as a couple simply don't understand why people don't have sex all the time when they are married. Granted we do not have children.... When it comes right down to it I love going home from work to be with my wife. We both love to play games, video games and hang out. We love to sit around and chat. I love to take her out. She is my best friend and we've both learned what gets the other one going. Now when we got married our sex life was a once a month deal....on my end. We talked a lot about it, made some descions that we wanted a better quality of sex and opened ourselves up to that. Once you start having really good multi O sex you don't have to dress it up, your partner just wants it. Have any of you asked your partner what they want out of their sex lives? Seriously it's a wonderful thing to really get that out in the open. Do you want to be a hot young stud or a grumpy grandpa, its all up to the two of you.
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