Wicked Child Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 So the mm I've been messin around with is officially available now....I'm wondering if I should step my game up a little, now that there's less that needs to be hidden...It kinda feels like things have been getting a little more personal as of late..(he has actually talked to me about moving his ex out and the divorce being final...that's always been kind of a don't ask don't tell..)He looks at me differently, touches me differently, and seems a little more emotionally attracted to me...(you know you can tell the difference on how someone feels by the way he/she looks at/touches you, etc...) Now I'm not sure if that's going to change, now that he's got his bachelor pad and freedom, but maybe I should amp up my game?? I've kinda been a sure thing with him, maybe I should play a little harder to get? (I really don't want to give up my weekly booty tho...haha) I dunno..I've followed his lead the whole time cos of the situation...Maybe I need to make him follow mine? Input appreciated!
whichwayisup Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 You make it sound like a conquest and a game. Casually 'date' him and give him time and space to mellow out and deal with his recent divorce. Like it or not, I'm sure he is grieving his loss - Of the marriage, of his life with her, his way of living. That takes time so give him that.. Don't push yourself on him, let him call the shots and let him know that it's OK to go slowly. IF you rush it, you'll just stay in affair mode with all those dynamtics that go along with having an affair. Each of you need to learn to trust eachother fully (I'm sure you have some jealously and fears that he may keep intouch with his ex and that will bother you etc..) and create solid foundation to build a real relationship together, not one based on an affair.
RinClavin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I think it depends entirely on what you want out of this. While you were his OW certain things were assumed. A relationship in the traditional sense was not one of them. Now that he's available, and no different from any man, YOU have to decide whether you want a relationship or if you want a fling. I really have no idea what he wants out of it, and the only way to know this is to be honest with one another. My suggestions would be to clarify to yourself what exactly you're looking for before you initiate a heart to heart.
bentnotbroken Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 So the mm I've been messin around with is officially available now....I'm wondering if I should step my game up a little, now that there's less that needs to be hidden...It kinda feels like things have been getting a little more personal as of late..(he has actually talked to me about moving his ex out and the divorce being final...that's always been kind of a don't ask don't tell..)He looks at me differently, touches me differently, and seems a little more emotionally attracted to me...(you know you can tell the difference on how someone feels by the way he/she looks at/touches you, etc...) Now I'm not sure if that's going to change, now that he's got his bachelor pad and freedom, but maybe I should amp my up game?? I've kinda been a sure thing with him, maybe I should play a little harder to get? (I really don't want to give up my weekly booty tho...haha) I dunno..I've followed his lead the whole time cos of the situation...Maybe I need to make him follow mine? Input appreciated! This is appears to be all a game to you. Play, amp up your game??? You have been involved in a another woman's life(with or without her knowledge)it seems like it is just a big challenge. How well, can you play this fool, before you get bored with him. This is really sad, to kind of be bragging about.
Reggie Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 You go , girl. Amp up that massive game of yours. Just amp it to the max, like a miniature megaforce. Play him the new hit single by "Megaforce", "My Love is Like a Ramrod".:bunny:
Athena Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I've kinda been a sure thing with him, maybe I should play a little harder to get? (I really don't want to give up my weekly booty tho...haha) No, I wouldn't advise you to start playing 'hard to get' -- why 'play' any game? You should be open and honest with him and make a solid heart connection, not mess him around.
Mr. Lucky Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 You should be open and honest with him Like he was with his wife? Mr. Lucky
tami-chan Posted March 27, 2009 Posted March 27, 2009 You go , girl. Amp up that massive game of yours. Just amp it to the max, like a miniature megaforce. Play him the new hit single by "Megaforce", "My Love is Like a Ramrod".:bunny: LOL!!! "You go , girl"..:lmao:!!!! You know what? this guy deserves you. Is he "just" a "booty call" to you? (jesus h. christ, who coined that term-----> "booty call"! ugh) As a matter of fact, you guys deserve each other! congratulations!!
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