Melocoton Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I think I know what to do but need some input. I became friends with a seperated woman of 3 months living on her own. Our friendship lasted 4 months before we became intimate. Our relationship lasted 7 months. She pushed me away for a few weeks to protect herself, needing to work things out for herself, by herself and on her own and we parted. Just recently we met and we both still have strong feelings for eachother. She is still not ready to be with me(or anyone) regardless of how much we care for one another. We understand eachother, we are patient with eachother, we know how hard it is for both of us. We both wish she was ready. We both want to continue life together, but we both know it is not the right time. My head tells me to protect my heart and move on and have zero contact with her. Then possibly come back to her ONLY as a friend when we both are 100% over eachother. My hopeless romantic heart tells me to be patient, give her her complete space and let her come around when she is ready. Guess I just need advice making a decision from people that have experienced this as I've never been in this type of situation before.
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 When it's time to move on, your heart and mind will tell you. At least she told you in the nick of time about her issues and about her space that is needed, but you can stick around...but for now as a friend, if you can handle that. She obviously cares for you but maybe she doesn't or can't get back with you for fear that she will hurt you. Its great to be a hopeless romantic, but you need to think about yourself first and foremost. If you can't be patient or don't want to wait than don't. When it's time for you to get into a new relationship than you'll know...don't go looking for it.
Author Melocoton Posted March 30, 2009 Author Posted March 30, 2009 Thank you for the simple advice, it has helped
sugarmomma Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Also remember that if she is still married there is a possibility that she could return to her spouse. You would really be in a bad place if that happened. I would physically give her some space and be as supportive as possible while she sorts her life out. You definitely don't want to be in the line of fire if/when it happens. Do what's best for you and protect your heart. Good Luck.
Author Melocoton Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 If you curious. Update: After months of no contact we are finally aquaintances again. She is still single but legally married and still trying to become more emotionally healthy. I have been seeing someone more appropriate for me.
lboogie1118 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 give her time and listen to your gut, if your mind is telling u the best thing is to wait, then do so. your heart will lead you to hurt with this person.
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