385 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I'm pretty inexperienced so I have little idea how a shy girl's mind works. I've also tried asking a female friend of mine for her perspective, and she couldn't help much because she's probably the most outgoing person i know. But anyways, if you are shy, consider yourself shy, or used to be shy, could you help me out with this? I've been dating this girl for a few weeks (though we aren't exclusive yet) and because of her shyness and maybe insecurity, I can't tell if she's interested in me or not. So three questions: 1) If you are a shy girl, how likely are you to initiate conversation with a guy you like - that is via, text, phone call, im, whatever. Do you always wait for that guy to contact you because you are not sure if he likes you or not? 2) If the guy you liked hinted to you that you should talk to him, via text, phone call, etc, how likely are you to actually do that instead of waiting for him to talk to you first? Again, if you aren't sure what the guy thinks about you, how likely are you to initiate a conversation? 3) If you are a shy and or insecure girl, what would you want the guy you liked to do - to perhaps get a relationship going? Since I'm having trouble gauging her interest, I have a hard time knowing what to do. So should I talk to her more frequently? Less frequently, hang out with her more, what's up? Oh, and to help you out, I'm kinda sure the girl I'm dating is sort of insecure, because her body language whenever hanging out with me is not as confident as it could be. So try to put yourself in the shoes of a shy sorta insecure girl. Thanks!
bean1 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Is she shy or just not very interested? A lot of people get those confused, especially in the early stages of dating. Shy and insecure are 2 different things. An insecure girl will contact you constantly to be reassured that you are "still there". The answer to all 3 of your questions are: 1. Tell her to call you, flat out. 2. Don't hint. Tell her. 3. Tell her. A shy and/or insecure girl may think that you aren't that interested in her if you aren't telling her these things flat out. A lot of women are under the belief that men will just tell them things without all the fluff (ie. hints) so if you don't say it like you mean it, it might go over her heard.
Author 385 Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 Is she shy or just not very interested? A lot of people get those confused, especially in the early stages of dating. Shy and insecure are 2 different things. An insecure girl will contact you constantly to be reassured that you are "still there". The answer to all 3 of your questions are: 1. Tell her to call you, flat out. 2. Don't hint. Tell her. 3. Tell her. A shy and/or insecure girl may think that you aren't that interested in her if you aren't telling her these things flat out. A lot of women are under the belief that men will just tell them things without all the fluff (ie. hints) so if you don't say it like you mean it, it might go over her heard. Thanks for the tips! I'll be more obvious with what I say to her from now on. And I guess what I mean by insecure is that she's not really confident - as in she's not really secure about who she is.
loser101 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 my sister is a shy girl and she would expect a guy to take the lead - but not to be too pushy. good luck with that
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