Biggie25x Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I am getting a divorce from my wife of 7 years. We've been together for 12 total. Shes been a big part of my life. The relationship started well and was based on a strong feeling of love. Well, these last few years we screwed it all up. On both sides. We disagreed on everything and argued about a lot. It wasn't healthy. Our lives were going in different directions. It almost seems like just to be together took so much work we literaly exhausted ourselves. No relationship should be that stressed. I feel, though, that if we work on it with a MC we could make a go of reconciling. She doesn't and wants out. I feel that we didn't cheat and there was no abuse on either side so everything can be worked on if you just try. She also doesn't feel this way. I mean I know I have contributed to where our marriage is currently. I know I have created some of the issues we have. I'm willing to work it out and compromise. She isn't. She views most of the issues as my fault. I, of course, disagree. She says she wants a divorce but she seem so to be playing games and saying things like "Well if we got back together...." or things of that sort. I than say no problem I can do it and work on it and she's back to wanting a divorce. What gives? Either she wants it or she doesn't. Maybe it's just her way of messing with my mind, I don't know but it's messing with my mind. One second there is no chance and than the next there seems to be. I don't know how to get over the love I feel for her. How can someone love someone who's caused them so much pain? Any answer would be appreciated as I am struggling with ending my marriage. Please help.
CM2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Well to me she seems confused and doesn't really know what to do. The only thing I can say is try the MC even for one session, or try your minister or whatever faith or religion you. It seems to me that she still wants to be with you but right now she's just confused and scared.
Author Biggie25x Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 That's what I think as well but she doesn't want to go. She doesn't think we can ever make each other happy. I have tried and tried but to no avail. She is not one who likes to be confronted with mistakes and tends to ignore issues and not talk about them until they blow up. This is one of the reasons I think we are where we are. I would ask her what was wrong and she would never tell me. Or we would get in an argument about her telling me.
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