knightzen Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Well it has been over two years now that I have been away from my supposed soulmate. She was my first love, we were together for 8 and a half years, she was everything to me, and all that mattered. But she left to pursue her own career in a country which I could not live, I tried. I did visit her a couple of times but she had changed, she was not close to me and get even get angry at me for trying to spend time with her because I was getting in the way of her busy work schedule. Ironically She also wont let me break free from her, still plays mind games ie. when we did contact again a few months ago she says she loves me, but I think her love is just a lie. I know She has no intentions of coming back soon to be with me, and even if she did, she is a different person now. I just want to get on with my life and be happy and find my true soulmate – one that is always there for me no matter what and not put their own selfish needs ahead. Please god or whoever is out there let me find this person. Its my birthday wish for next week and my life wish too
Nikki Sahagin Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I heard once that it can take about half the time you were together to get over someone so if you were together for 8 years, you may need 4 to fully heal. That said, there is no time limit on suffering. You could be over her in a month and there are some you never truly get over. One thing holding you back may be that you are still in contact. You need to cut off contact entirely as hard as this may be. In 2 years this contact has progressed to nothing more and you say she is angry at you for even trying to be close. As such she has no interest in the 2 of you being close. This will only hurt you further. Be brave and stop talking to her. You hold onto the conversations because you think she will come back. Maybe say do you ever see us back together. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, even then, if she doesn't want you now, then i'd still move on. I think it's VERY difficult to get over your first love, soulmate, the person who gave you your first kiss, you lost your virginity to, you discovered love with, wanted kids with - it's a HUGE set of things to overcome. Be persistant. Maybe go to speak to a therapist, the ongoing conversation may really help you.
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