my_lynn Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 hello all. hope life is treating you well! first off, as the title states, i feel like i am repeating the past. like the current situation im in, has happened. and when this relationship started, i didn't see it.... kay, so story time. i met this guy 2.5 months ago. totally into me. called me the morning after we met, and so started our talking. after that, texted all day, called, the works. he is super sweet, i was smitten immediately. we went on a few dates, but we both have pretty packed schedules (i work and go to school full time, as well as a part time internship, he works 2 jobs while trying to get stuff ready for his business). but there were no games. and it was so refreshing to just feel good about a new and exciting guy. about a... week and a half ago, things got sour and i can't find out why. he said the past week he has been busy with work. i heard from him everyday still, but it felt weird and different. i called with no call back (which never happened) and asked if everything was okay, he said that he was sorry, just busy with work. okay, fine. this past weekend he texted me on friday, telling me to have a good time and that he was tired so wasn't going to come out (invited him out for my birthday, cause it was last week and we were celebrating) and that i should call him in the morning. i called him, no answer. no call back or text. none sunday either. finally yesterday, monday, i texted him late in the afternoon just asking how his weekend was. he responded.. it was a lame 2 or 3 texts, and no more conversation. he texted me with a good morning, this morning, but it was again, a lame, almost pointless text conversation. i feel like this is how all my relationships turn out... things are great then something just snaps. should i ask him what is going on? and if i should, how would i ask him in an appropriate way? or should i just play it out a while longer, try and detach myself from the situation, and let him come to me if he wants...? anything, honestly would help. i feel helpless in this.
Scarlett513 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Wow, your past sounds just like mine lol. In any case, I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I know how frustrating and discouraging it can be. Lately I have seen so many guys just disappear from a relationship (or casual dating situation) with no explanation. It's happened to me and it's happened to quite a few of my (very fabulous) friends. It's definetley not uncommon, and you're not alone in this. My advice would be to NOT chase him, no matter how bad you want that explanation or answer. Ask him once - I would call and leave a voicemail if you don't get him. Be very nice and casual about it - "Hey, I haven't heard from you in awhile, just wondering what's up. Call me back if you get a chance." Then LEAVE IT. He'll come to you if he wants to, and if he doesn't, at least you still have your dignity.
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