Princess07 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Ok, here it goes. I am a 19yr old female and I am in a relationship with another female (my girlfriend, of course) we have been together for almost two years. Ever since we have been together there has constantly been issues with her lying and cheating. Iconsider cheating something that is supposed to be between only me and her ( Kissing, sex, going out,etc.) Sometimes we physically fight after I confront her on these issues. Almost three months ago I found out that she actually had sex with another girl. It breaks my heart because we live together and financially I am dependent upon her. I do not have to pay rent and whatever I ask for I get, but I do not feel like I can put up with this type of behavior any longer. I love my girlfriend with all my heart we share a home together and we have a beautiful dog, but I do not know how much longer I can put up with her. She says that she is changing, but we have just been through so much I don't know if I have the energy to continue on in this self destructing relationship. A part of me wants to stay but a part of me says pack my bags and leave. Could someone please give me some type of advice as to how I can deal?
St. Nick Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 LOL. I love it how the majority of the posts on this forum start with OK. Whenever I go into a thread I am 99% positive it is going to start with "OK". Anyway, back to the problem at hand. *ahem* You need to start being financially responsible on your own. You're 19 years old and that makes you a big girl, mmkay? Showing that you're able to take care of yourself financially shows to your significant other that you can't be bosses around and expect you to just take it. She's cheated on you, and will most likely cheat on you again because she has a sense of superiority over you. Why does she think she's superior to you? Because you live in her place, live off her money, and are stuck on her. She thinks she owns you and therefore she thinks she can walk all over you. If you let this slide then who is to say she won't do it again? What's to stop her? You've got to start doing two things: 1. Start being more financially responsible. 2. Cheat on her back. Show her that what goes around comes around.
missdependant Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Pack up your bags and leave. Become responsible for yourself. It will be good for your self-esteem. Physical fights shouldn't be tolerated in ANY relationship, either. It will probably only get worse. Move on.
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