Reggie Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Thinking about it is fine and natural. Acting on it is not. Jails wuld be even more full if thinking about doing something was a crime. And, I have to disagree that folks do not realize when they are crossing the line. It is so easy to distinguish friendship from romance.
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 WHOAH!!! so rich with assumptions! <shrug> In the meantime you might want to wash off the "bulls-eye" painted on your forehead!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 In the meantime you might want to wash off the "bulls-eye" painted on your forehead! Right...LOL...right there between the eyes...:rolleyes:! I did not expect this kind of attack from you, Pelican Preacher. You are usually above the fray...oh well...
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I guess I'm the only one enlightened enough to expand the definition of violence for when one selfishly and wantonly tramples and destroys the feelings of the one(s) who love them in the quest for love of another then I perceive violence in that act! I guess its all a matter of perception and perspective <shrug>!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Thinking about it is fine and natural. Acting on it is not. Jails wuld be even more full if thinking about doing something was a crime. Did anyone say it is a crime? And, I have to disagree that folks do not realize when they are crossing the line. It is so easy to distinguish friendship from romance. Crossing the line is not difficult to distinguish-I don't think. It is the path to crossing the line that could be murky...but then again, some people JUST KNOW from the beginning when they meet a person that "this is not a good thing"...
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I guess I'm the only one enlightened enough to expand the definition of violence for when one selfishly and wantonly tramples and destroys the feelings of the one(s) who love them in the quest for love of another then I perceive violence in that act! I guess its all a matter of perception and perspective <shrug>! I guess! whatever you say! :D:D!
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I guess! whatever you say! :D:D! WRONG! Its all that I see...in you!!!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 WRONG! Its all that I see...in you!!! HUH? I was wrong because I agreed with you? All that you see in me....hmmm...ok! thank you!
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 HUH? I was wrong because I agreed with you? All that you see in me....hmmm...ok! thank you! I don't miss a beat of your sarcasm so save it for the lunatic fringe!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I don't miss a beat of your sarcasm so save it for the lunatic fringe! Oh I didn't know I was being sarcastic...I am sorry !
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Oh I didn't know I was being sarcastic...I am sorry ! Another thing... Don't get my screen confused with somebody mamby pamby. I'll roll my sleeves up and join the fray so fast you'd swear I bought my shirts cuffed at the elbows any and everytime I'm fired up!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Another thing... Don't get my screen confused with somebody mamby pamby. I'll roll my sleeves up and join the fray so fast you'd swear I bought my shirts cuffed at the elbows any and everytime I'm fired up! What's mamby pamby? Who's in the "fray"? Why would there be a fray against me? I am just one anonymous poster with a different take on things. Are you threatening to do harm to me?:eek:! Why?
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 What's mamby pamby? Who's in the "fray"? Why would there be a fray against me? I am just one anonymous poster with a different take on things. Are you threatening to do harm to me?:eek:! Why? Ahhhhhhh, that's a poor bait. I believe I'll take wing to drop my wisdom from on high now!
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Ahhhhhhh, that's a poor bait. I believe I'll take wing to drop my wisdom from on high now! Ok..<shrug>...be careful, don't fall.
pelicanpreacher Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Ok..<shrug>...be careful, don't fall. Don't you worry bout a thing for I'm sure on the wing!
Tired03 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 And, I have to disagree that folks do not realize when they are crossing the line. It is so easy to distinguish friendship from romance. No, it really isn't. There's a whole forum of people who can't figure out whether their friend is into them or not (see...Friends and Lovers). Now, it's "easy" if you're talking a PA - there there's a very clear line, but it's NOT so easy when you're talking about an emotional affair (which often leads to a PA). You start out being friends (ok, right?), you hang out with that person (even if in a crowd), and occasionally you trade a joke or email. All sounds like a friend, right? Some people have said that the line is when you find yourself missing that person. I would posit that upon finding yourself missing that person *it's already too late* You're already in the fog - headed on the path. I don't think anyone thinks to themselves "Oh boy, I really want to hurt my spouse, I'm going to have an affair" (well, some people might, but I think that's rare). Usually, like the frog in the pot, it sneaks up on them and they are there before they know it, boiling. They are often very good people otherwise - who didn't have any frame of reference for this occurring. Sometimes it's because needs weren't being met in a marriage and they didn't know they had those needs until they met this other person. Happened to a girlfriend of mine (EA). She didn't even know what was missing until she found it. Her then-husband was unable and unwilling to provide it. Was he hurt? Sure. Was she broken up? Yes. She spent time in therapy, went on ADs and tried to figure out what the heck was wrong with her. I enjoy your claims of enlightenment, pelican, but falling in love with another is not violence. Shoving a knife against someone's throat is.
hopesndreams Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Originally Posted by pelicanpreacher I guess I'm the only one enlightened enough to expand the definition of violence for when one selfishly and wantonly tramples and destroys the feelings of the one(s) who love them in the quest for love of another then I perceive violence in that act! It's like being stabbed in the heart. I agree with what you're saying PP.
hopesndreams Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 tired03 They are often very good people otherwise - who didn't have any frame of reference for this occurring. Cobblers.
Tired03 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 You can say that as much as you like but it doesn't mean it's true. There are articles all over the net that talk about how you may not even know you're in an emotional affair. You think that's because the people writing the articles are lying? I hadn't even heard of it until I stumbled across it doing research on how to help a friend.
tami-chan Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Don't you worry bout a thing for I'm sure on the wing! Oh that's cute! You rhyme-thing, wing...are you a rapper? LOL!!!
Owl Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 And this all just proves that trolls are alive in the modern world today!
Owl Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Not at all. Your posts aren't intended to do nothing but stir up controversy, or pick a fight. Other posters appear to only have joined this and other threads with the sole purpose of stirring up the waters.
bentnotbroken Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Not at all. Your posts aren't intended to do nothing but stir up controversy, or pick a fight. Other posters appear to only have joined this and other threads with the sole purpose of stirring up the waters. Or to go after certain long time posters and their beliefs. If you can use the info use it. If you don't like it, ignore it. It's simple. It's really kind of sad that adults can't speak their peace, give all sides of a scenario and not be generalized into oblivion.
Tired03 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Phew, okay, because I was just expressing an opinion - first I've posted in a long time (although I've lurked for quite awhile) and I wanted to make sure that it was understood to just be an opinion. 'Cause after all, we know what opinions are like...and everybody's got one!
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