smile_through_tears Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Its been awhile since the last time I posted here.. I stopped the crying and thought I was letting go...Why is it SO HARD?? Today I miss him again, after a month or so that I thought I was moving on... Dont get me wrong, I no longer feel that intense pain in my chest..But today I am feeling SO DOWN!! Nostalgic I guess you could say?? I know that he treated me wrong after the break-up..anyone who leaves me and stops caring about me when I love them so much, i consider it doing me wrong..I have forgiven him and dont hold a grudge against him...But I miss him today...Mainly just venting..but I went through intense pain for so long after losing him, I cant even describe it. Some people act so careless after a break-up...This was a sensitive & emotional time for me. Now Im better but sigh... Never love somebody who doesnt love you, right?? Its crazy how you're literally FORCED to get someone out of your heart, life & mind...I know people change...I just didnt know it would be him...
era Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I no longer feel that intense pain in my chest..But today I am feeling SO DOWN!! I know that feeling. Just observe your thoughts today. Take notice how you are heading in the wrong direction with your thoughts. Then make a U-turn. You are always a worthwhile, valuable person.
kimbop Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 It's ok toots. I completely sympathize with you right now. It's incredibly hard to block out the emotions of love that comes with the memory of him. You and I have to understand that this guy labeled as the uncaring ex is not the same person as the one who was once the loving boyfriend. Everyone says go NC and it'll get better everyday. Yes so I can't feel the stabbing of the heart anymore but I can certainly feel the bleeding from the wound still. You're not alone in the want-him-back nostalgia club. I don't know about you, but I want to see my ex to strangle him first before I give him a hug. All I can says is that we, the dumpees, can only hope to shed the emotions of love and need associated with the ex. God I hate him and love him at the same time.
wayfaerer1 Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I know exactly where you're coming from... It's been 6 months since my ex dumped me (after cheating on me) and I feel for you. I've healed so much over that period of time, but I'm still not over her yet. I mean, we dated for 4 years - it felt like an eternity. To be honest, I think it's perfectly normal to feel like you're not over that person - love is a powerful thing, and you can't simply erase that from your mind - all you can do is make the best of what you've got - that's a lesson I've learned. I know how you feel though. My ex did some aweful things to me, but despite that, I still miss her... Like for some reason, all the memories have been coming back to me in the last few days, just out of nowhere - and man, it burns... Just know that you're not alone, I know that doesn't help you get over your ex, but at least you're not alone in feeling the way you do. My suggestion for dealing with these flashbacks: Go to the gym Watch a funny movie Think back to other good memories in your life, not involving your ex
Peter_pan Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 Its been awhile since the last time I posted here.. I stopped the crying and thought I was letting go...Why is it SO HARD?? Today I miss him again, after a month or so that I thought I was moving on... Dont get me wrong, I no longer feel that intense pain in my chest..But today I am feeling SO DOWN!! Nostalgic I guess you could say?? I know that he treated me wrong after the break-up..anyone who leaves me and stops caring about me when I love them so much, i consider it doing me wrong..I have forgiven him and dont hold a grudge against him...But I miss him today...Mainly just venting..but I went through intense pain for so long after losing him, I cant even describe it. Some people act so careless after a break-up...This was a sensitive & emotional time for me. Now Im better but sigh... Never love somebody who doesnt love you, right?? Its crazy how you're literally FORCED to get someone out of your heart, life & mind...I know people change...I just didnt know it would be him... sorry to hear that i feel your pain... Its crazy how you're literally FORCED to get someone out of your heart, life & mind...I know people change...I just didnt know it would be cant agree with this more i hope things get better for you. im sure they will. i hope you can move on from this and find a guy that will never leave you
Author smile_through_tears Posted March 29, 2009 Author Posted March 29, 2009 What is it lately with me and these feelings?? I just want to cry right now. Why? I don't know. I feel like an idiot for feeling this way...especially when he is NOT AT ALL!! Should have went to a party tonight instead.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 29, 2009 Posted March 29, 2009 im so sorry love, i wish i was there to give you a long hug i know you can use it right about now... it is the truth though time heals all pain.... it sux but thats all you can really do is just ride it out the pain that is i think after this you will be a much stronger, wiser person. i know things will start getting better for you.
Author smile_through_tears Posted March 31, 2009 Author Posted March 31, 2009 it's just really tough though... IT SUCKS
playlislay Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 Its alright hunny, I know how crap it is when you feel that youre nearly over the hard stage and then it all comes flooding back! ( Dont worry, today was my last day at uni, meaning my last day to see my ex EVER! We broke up three months ago. To top it off its my birthday today (24-go me! lol) and the mother funker ignored me. He didnt even have the kindness or balls to just come up and say happy birthday, yet last week he was being kind of playful and was quite happy to come up and ask me for a ciggy (first time he had spoken to me in 10 weeks!). Its amazing at how someone that was so loving and caring, could turn into someone so cruel and bitter. Its also amazing how much it hurts. ( SO yes, I had a good cry today. Its good to let it all out instead of bottling up. I expect youve let it all out to-go on girl, let it all out. ) Keep your chin up, there are silver linings on those grey clouds )
EmperorR Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 I got dumped today, I know how it is, im not battling like double heartbreak because it seemed to bring back everything my ex-ex did to me/
sultry33 Posted April 1, 2009 Posted April 1, 2009 I got dumped today, I know how it is, im not battling like double heartbreak because it seemed to bring back everything my ex-ex did to me/ aww Emperor that sucks.. hugsto you and the op x it will get better
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